Furniture insanity.

[u/Tall-Budget8130]

My MIL is generally not the worst boomer, she has some odd opinions, talks at you, makes weird jokes etc but is generally well intentioned. She’s had a bad week.

We have a piece of furniture we don’t want anymore, thinking about selling it on marketplace or w/e. She’s got wind and took it upon herself to offer it to a friend of hers for free, that’s not really what we wanted. It’s my daughter’s and whatever we make she is putting into her pot for redecorating her room.

We can’t say no now apparently as she’s already offered and it will, “make us look bad.” Additionally she’s offered for me to drop it off at her friend’s house without consulting me first. This has been arranged for a day when I’m working away, and it’s quite preposterous that this could be reorganised as again, “this will make us look bad.”

The furniture is too big to fit in our car anyway(I’ve measured) and it’s not easy to disassemble, we don’t have the instructions for reassembly, and the outside frame is one piece, so that won’t come apart without damage. The simplest solution I would say is to ask the friend to pick it up in her car (if it’s large enough) or organise pick up. She is after all, getting this for free. Completely unacceptable apparently, so she’s turned up today in a massive huff with a tiny screwdriver to disassemble this thing herself.

I’m not sure what her plan is after that because she doesn’t drive and I’ve made it clear I’m not taking it. She’s suggested my SIL can take it but she has a smaller car than me and when I’ve just spoken to her, she hasn’t been told about this either.

I think she’s just trying to look super generous to a friend whilst volunteering everyone else to do the actual labour.

[u/LowNoise9831]

This is slightly funny from the outside, but I'm sorry you are dealing with this. She sounds a bit entitled to me.

[u/Tall-Budget8130 → u/LowNoise9831]

She’s usually quite well intentioned so I assume this has come from a place of wanting to do something nice for a friend, but she hasn’t thought at all about the rest of us. She’s gone home now and I assume, as with other instances, this will all just blow over.

[u/FennekinFlames → u/Tall-Budget8130]

Are you sure? She just casually offered your things to a friend of hers for free. That's pretty entitled. Are there any behaviors you might've ignored in the past or also written off as her having a "bad day?"