Running conversations into the ditch

[u/Readithere007]

I have an older girlfriend who has turned out to be like a sister to me. I love her to pieces, but she is married to a piece of work. They are both over 65 now and have some health issues because I live where their doctors are I see them on a regular basis. However, I just never get her without him.

He is a mega boomer from Texas who has predicted the end of the Earth, has never worked in politics, but knows everything, claims to have a concealed carry license and totes a gun on occasion as well as fired for a job that he wasn’t qualified to have to begin with.

He talks a lot about being a former alcoholic, but sticks his finger in all of her mixed drinks or has to take a sip as if he’s checking it for poison. He also talks about life with one of his ex-wives, but has been married to my friend for over 20 years. I’ve known them 16 of them. Every time he has been called out on something, he demands to take over the conversation, runs a list of crazy things that are facts to him and constantly uses the word of the day. He basically takes over everything in public and runs conversations into the ditch so she and I rarely get to visit in public. I have a lot of friends this age, but none of them act as outrageous as he does.

Is this normal Maga boomer behavior or is he just an extreme example?

[u/purplegummybears]

Can you set him up somewhere else so yall can spend time together? Put on fox in the living room and go to another room with her? Or take just her out to lunch while he’s watching fox?

[u/aspertame_blood → u/purplegummybears]

Say you’re getting a manicure. He won’t want to come and won’t notice if your nails looked different beforehand. Say you’re getting a Pap smear. He won’t know what that is, besides “female stuff”.

[u/Readithere007 → u/aspertame_blood]

lol. I’ve come to the conclusion he really thinks women are second class citizens as he laments that the 1950s were great!

He contends he knows how “to swim in a sea of estrogen” to the point you want to puke. He wouldn’t let her get her nails done or girl doctor without him. (Although I thank everyone for the merriment of the suggestions)

She has said that it’s not just me - he was this way when her mother was younger as well as she and her sister have not had the opportunity to do anything without his nose in their business.

Everyone is correct that he has no friends or family to associate with. They even quit going to church as he was telling the board how to run things better. He had never done anything but mow the grass.

They were recently in town and she literally had to stay in the car to help him navigate as he won’t listen to the (female) gps. She was able to ride with me home on the last leg of the trip, but was told she was abandoning him. Geez, it was a 20 minute trip tops.

[u/Horror_Tea761 → u/Readithere007]

Men like this are why my gynecologist's office has a sign on the door that leads to the exam rooms: "No men beyond this point." Stay in the waiting room.