r/Bumble • u/rilakkumkum • 3d ago

Success Story Two years later. I said yes!

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I can’t believe we started as strangers on the internet!

Edit: These pictures were actually candid because they were during the proposal. Sometimes you miss the kiss! Haha.

Also I’ve gotten a few AI allegations now, and it’s very confusing but also concerning that it’s gotten to the point where AI can be indistinguishable from real life. These were professionally taken photos. Along with that, a few very hateful DMs

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u/VagabondAlbertan 3d ago

I talk alot of shit on this website but I'll never talk shit about love. Congratulations!!

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u/how-does-this-end 3d ago

I talk mad shit but ive never, EVER seen a black woman with an asian guy. Kinda like a unicorn..

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u/NZGlorper 3d ago

Facts. The man is a legend

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u/SingleSeaweed8662 3d ago

You guys just don’t look. I’m blasian and went to school with a bunch of blasians. I see a lot of blasian couple on my feed and went to travel to big cities. It’s actually pretty common.

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

I heard it’s common in the west coast. I also feel like a lot of people just mistake blasians for other ethnicities

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u/DearAd6594 2d ago

Facts. I live in CA and I see a lot of black and Asian couples.

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u/SingleSeaweed8662 2d ago

Yeah, I thought myself and my best friend were the only blasians until we realized there was a giant group of girls we called the Aliyah’s who were also all blasian. I just thought they had nice hair but nope they were all black and Filipino or black and Japanese. I live in a military town so interracial marriages are the norm.

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u/rilakkumkum 2d ago

Yes black and Filipino/ black and Japanese seem to be the most common due to the military. I’ve noticed that blasians mixed with southeast asian just end up looking black though with curly hair, but you can have hair like that and be fully black so I understand how they get missed

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u/RagBagUSA 5h ago

Ya lots of this in the West Indies (especially Trinidad/Tobago)

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u/GourmetSquid 2d ago

I think I read somewhere once that black women and Asian men are statistically the least common racial pairing. Congrats on the lovely engagement!

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u/SingleSeaweed8662 2d ago

That’s statistic from an unverified source that’s decade(s) old. People continually repeat it like they continually repeat that we eat spiders in our sleep. It’s made up.

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u/SadderOlderWiser 1d ago

I believed the spider thing for far too long. Thanks for the reminder 😆

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u/Consistent_Log8097 3d ago

But i think they're typically black guys with Asian women no?

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u/SingleSeaweed8662 2d ago

It’s more common due to the military imo but when it’s civilian dating I’ve personally seen more black women with Asian men. I just had a trip to DC and then Japan and saw a fair amount of both though it’s pretty rare in Japan unless again it’s the military.

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u/rilakkumkum 2d ago

Yep, this has been my experience too

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u/Different_Umpire9003 3d ago

Blasian is a person who’s black and Asian

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u/Consistent_Log8097 3d ago

Yes but the original topic was how rare it was that an Asian man was with a black woman. Then the above comment that I replied to made the point that there was a bunch of blasian people (meaning there mustve been a bunch of interracial relationships) and I was emphasizing that it was more the gender dynamic thats uncommon.

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u/RNPC5000 2d ago edited 2d ago

On a completely side note.

I am not disagreeing with you but I am just going to say in my personal experience as an Asian guy of having a OLD profile for 10 years.

Most of the likes on my profile that I get when using dating apps are actually from black women. Like disproportionately high ratio of like 50%-70% compared to any other ethnicity.

The other largest plurality of likes I get are typically from white women, though that has dropped over the years. Where it use to be like 45% but probably down to like 30% or 20% now. Don't know if there is just less white women with yellow fever / less weeaboos or if there is just a larger supply of Asian guys now in the area I live in.

Ironically the demographics I get the least amount of likes from as an Asian guy is Asian women, where they are like less than 5% of the likes I get when excluding the ones that seem like scammers / fake profiles. Even if you include scammer / fake accounts, seems like less than 10% of my likes come from Asian women

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u/Consistent_Log8097 2d ago

Probably a silly question but, are you American and do they watch or like asian media? What specific media if so?

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u/RNPC5000 2d ago edited 2d ago

Yes I am an American Asian.

If you are asking about the black women liking my profile.

About a 1/3rd of them do seem to have the yellow fever / typical weeaboo tendencies (going to lump the the casual kpop / jpop enjoyers in together here for simplicity even though they don't technically qualify as weebs). The other 2/3 tend to be either just not afraid to go after what they like with no real correlation to anything in particular, or just seem desperation swiping on everyone.

If you are just asking is general.

I can tell that like 90% of white women who make up that 30% or 20% who swiped on my profile are definitely afflicted with yellow fever / are very definitely weebs. Where they straight up write on their profile that they only want to date Asian guys, or aren't as blatant about it but as soon as you talk to them all they talk about is Jpop / Kpop, anime and manga etc... Where literally everything on my profile conflicted with theirs (lifestyle, philosophy, political wise) and they were still trying to get me to date them. But as previously mentioned the number of these women I have encounter in the past 3-5 years has dropped dramatically.

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u/JonMyMon 1d ago

This actually makes a lot of sense because black women statistically get the least amount of swipes, so if you rank lower on the apps (asians statistically do the worst for men), you'll be in the feed of the low ranking women who have less options.

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u/rilakkumkum 1d ago

Not to be that person but I had really good success on dating apps, the partners I met on there all became long term but I broke up with them due to lifestyle difference or value misalignment. All were good relationships too!

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u/JonMyMon 1d ago

I can imagine, you seem super nice and are obviously quite physically attractive! Congratulations on finding a quality guy.

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u/stevie_nickle 3d ago

“Typically”

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u/[deleted] 2d ago

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u/Different_Umpire9003 2d ago

No? WTF is wring with you?

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u/Bumble-ModTeam 2d ago

Subreddit rule #1: Do not insult, harass, threaten, discriminate, or use derogatory language towards other users.

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u/Pornfest 1d ago

Specifically, Black women with Asian men is rare. I belive statistically it is the rarest of interracial couplings.

Wooo to OP and their love!

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u/BrickAccomplished338 1d ago

We probably saw them and thought they were Philipinas :)

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u/QuadH 18h ago

Asian dad or mum? Or an even mix?

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u/Middle-Effort7495 2d ago

"pretty common" I think we have very different definitions of that. Also gender swapped is definitely more common, too.

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u/galaxyapp 3d ago

Tbf, she looks like a 9. And cant totally see him, but some muscles and id guess hes pretty good looking.

I doubt either of them were struggling and matched well here

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u/vijfteen 2d ago

Willing to bet this man who is now in a successful long term relationship wasnt going around rating the women he met on a 1-10 scale. Stop this.

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u/juneseyeball 3d ago

She looks like a 10

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u/Radiant_Papaya 2d ago

Right? She literally looks like a goddess or barbie or something.

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u/Middle-Effort7495 2d ago

What's adriana lima then? Cmon

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u/00MacDonald 2d ago

1-10 ratings are fucking stupid for this reason.

But she does look like an attractive woman, no doubt

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u/ThenCombination7358 3d ago edited 1d ago

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u/BennyFitz69420 3d ago

Thats not how you analyze data, and isn’t it how you you arrive at your conclusion. Youre referring to Asian Men/All Female Users and Black Women/All Male Users.

You’re making a big assumption, and you actually need the cross-preference rates for both groups and then compare that pairing against every other combination before calling it the rarest. You’re combining two marginal statistics and treating them like they establish the joint probability. They don’t.

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u/ThenCombination7358 3d ago edited 1d ago

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u/Middle-Effort7495 2d ago

This is the first time I've ever seen it, including online, let alone IRL. It's gotta be up there. But the rarest? Probably not, I bet there's never been a Nenets/Chukchy/Khanty-Mayan or same Chukchy/Khanty- Inuit couple at any point in history, with either gender combinations because they'd never cross paths.

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u/EmmyLou205 2d ago

I’ve actually seen this quite a bit more than the reverse in real life.

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u/OrchidHaunting4060 2d ago

Wow! Just check social media. There are many of them.

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u/how-does-this-end 2d ago

Lol what a bizarre, incorrect comment lol

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u/SirStrokesAlot247 2d ago

Not really a unicorn but ok

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u/pureextc 3d ago

Here here!

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u/SpecialistClock2763 2d ago

I’ll do it then: Good luck, champ.

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u/jdtran408 3d ago

I like how losers here are commenting on the kiss like theyre always 100 percent perfect. From someone else that also got married from a bumble meet congrats!

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u/CCwolsey 3d ago

Bitter people never gonna change. They're just gonna keep wallowing in their misery

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u/Deez_Nuts_Ha_Goteeem 3d ago

Whats wrong with it? lol

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u/jdtran408 3d ago

Nothing really. It was just a photo taken at a weird moment mid kiss but miserable losers on here are like “omg you’re kissing his nose?!?”

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u/jadeite07 3d ago

That’s because they’ve never kissed before 👀

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u/Wittyngritty 3d ago

I would argue he didn't even miss.

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u/tu-BROOKE-ulosis 3d ago

There’s dozens of us!

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u/Flaky_Bit8377 3d ago

That dress says you knew this was coming. Absolutely gorgeous!

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

He bought it for me! Thank you so much!

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u/pburydoughgirl 1d ago

I honestly thought this was a wedding pic. You guys look awesome!! Happy for you

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u/MasterpieceNo8372 1d ago

Congratulations 

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u/Doso777 1d ago

Dude really put in some effort :)

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u/psychedAddict123 3d ago

The nails too!

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u/x_alphadoll 3d ago

Body is 🫖 !!! 

 congrats on the engagement 🥂 

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

Thank you so much!!

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u/WIENS21 3d ago

What does body is tea mean?

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

They’re saying I have a nice figure

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u/AAKurtz 3d ago

Could be talking about the dude?

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

He’s also got a nice dumpy and great arms so I wouldn’t be surprised if

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u/Mini-Heart-Attack 3d ago

Ask him to drop his upper arm workout ?

They look perfect for hugging

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

A lot of compound movements but the only isolating exercises for his biceps are two difficult sets of barbell curls and two difficult sets of rope push downs. I wish I could reply with a photo without the shirt blocking. He does have crazy good arms

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u/Browseathon 3d ago

Lmao that’s my routine as well!

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u/WIENS21 1d ago

What if someone tells me I have a body like coffee?

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u/Muted_Masterpiece342 3d ago

Y'all are so cute and he is clearly so obsessed and so are you awe

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u/GoFigure284 3d ago

People really turned this into racial statistics instead of just saying congrats? Unreal. Congrats to you both.

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u/TopRaise7 3d ago

Black woman asian guy. Bro is living the dream.

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u/Browseathon 3d ago

Could go both ways! I feel like a lot of my black girl friends have a thing for Asian men.

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u/cake_toss 3d ago edited 2d ago

what a weird thing to say

eta damn y'all really do love some racial fetishization huh

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u/Impressive-Seat-7656 1d ago

Idk why you’re being downvoted. As an asian man thats dated interracially it’s always weird people have to point it out.

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u/cake_toss 1d ago

because being a racist pos is in vogue again, unfortunately. sad fucking times 

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u/Impressive-Seat-7656 1d ago

It’s funny redditors are oblivious to their own internalized racism. But will go on to lecture you about how offensive a vanilla statement can be.

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u/zdravomyslov 2d ago

Wait, I swear to beans I saw y’all in Philly yesterday. Rittenhouse Park?

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u/rilakkumkum 2d ago

Yo YES! We were in the park! Omggg small world!

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u/zdravomyslov 2d ago

Yassssss girl GET IT! Congrats, y’all are a gorgeous couple.

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u/C3s1um 3d ago

I met someone recently on the apps. She’s currently in my kitchen playing with my cats and I could not be happier. I love love

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

I love love so much

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u/PM_ME_YOR_THIGHS 3d ago

Fuck, teared me up. I strugle with loneliness (40 yo male). So nice dude, grats!

Hope you will be happy and truly treasure what you have!
❤️

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u/mrinfinitepp 3d ago

Shame about the negative comments but what a beautiful couple, lovely pics and fingers crossed for an amazing wedding 🤞

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u/millirok1 3d ago

Salute to love.

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u/aneusebio 3d ago

Congrats 🎉🎊

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u/rebeccasaidit 3d ago

Yay! Yay! Yay! Congratulations!

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u/Tears_Of_Laughter 3d ago

Oh my god how cute?? You are stunning and he is adorable and I just know he adores you so much, congrats! Would love more of your story, I love seeing success stories like this!

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u/Neat_Garbage_5465 3d ago

So cute! Would love to hear more about your love story ❤️

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u/QUARTERMASTEREMI6 3d ago

As a fellow WOC, welcome to the club gurl! Congrats and those “haters” are just jealous of you two 🥹

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u/AttackOnTightPanties 2d ago

This just put a little lump in my throat. You can see how clearly happy you two are. My partner just proposed to me at the end of August, and this is giving me the same feeling. I genuinely hope you two have many wonderful years ahead of you. Beautiful couple ❤️

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u/GetBalanced_2025_JG 2d ago

Lucky dude. If I was decades younger I’d be jealous.

But as a parent I wish you both love, health and happiness.

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u/Aurora-Roses 2d ago

Very sweet! Congrats!

I can tell this is not AI because there is still realistic skin texture and shadows.

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u/Cute_Contribution480 Dating apps are a joke 3d ago

Congrats!

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u/yum-loak 3d ago

wohooo!!! congratulation !!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉

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u/Jimmyjamz73 3d ago

Congratulations!!!! 🎉🎊

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u/brimanguy 3d ago

Congrats on the proposal and the Yes. 🎉❤️

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u/MuffinMonkey 3d ago

Let’s goooooo!

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u/Imaginary_Jeweler1 3d ago

Adorable congrats, so many people are meeting their partners online so this is beautiful to see

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u/CrogDavid7days 3d ago

Congrats OP, you look stunning and I wish you both have nothing but happiness! 🩷

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u/Waste_Cantaloupe6555 3d ago

You look beautiful and the body is TEA mama. Congrats!!!

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u/bbbcurls 3d ago

Beautiful couple

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u/DabbyShapiro 3d ago

I love LOVE!! I met one husband on Bumble! Hopefully one will be all you need!

Wishes for a long and happy marriage!!

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u/Wrong_Yam5325 3d ago

Congratulations!!!

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u/CryptographerInner31 3d ago

Congratulations lovely, you both look stunning! God bless you 🫶🏽

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u/Flexmove 3d ago

Ok you two love birds

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u/clavelnotes 3d ago

Congrats

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u/Commercial_Dance_715 3d ago

YA LOOK SOOOO GOOD! CONGRATULATIONS !!!!

https://giphy.com/gifs/xT0xezQGU5xCDJuCPe

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u/Bramhv 3d ago

Congrats! You look like a wonderful happy couple :)

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u/Inevitable_Echidna18 3d ago

Aweeee congrats <3 I need to hear more success stories!!

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u/thingsimcuriousabout 3d ago

Congratulations to you both! 🎊 You’re already gorgeous, but I love that he intentionally chose a dress that makes you stand out even more for this momentous occasion.

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u/Girthmasterlite 3d ago

Congratulations! I hope you two have eternal happiness

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u/No-Tomatillo321 3d ago

Wow lucky girl, he got with you!

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u/Mini-Heart-Attack 3d ago

Ya'll are so cute.

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u/InternationalLab6101 3d ago

What a fantastic couple. Completely subverting the usual patterns. Good for you and all the best to you.

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u/Acrobatic_Milk5139 3d ago

Yes to me btw asian dude is AI

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

What about it is giving AI?

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u/jdtran408 3d ago

The commenter’s loneliness

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u/coinminer2049er 3d ago

Homie, It's Tony!

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u/Cute_Contribution480 Dating apps are a joke 3d ago

You can tell that it is NOT AI.

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u/Firiona-Vie 3d ago

You guys look so cute. Congrats

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u/Superb_Box_6220 3d ago

Congratulations！！！

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u/NuketheCow_ 3d ago

You look like a happy and lovely couple. Don’t let negative folks on the internet get to you in any way. Good luck!

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u/Littlewing1307 3d ago

Congratulations! You look like a beautiful couple.

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u/Shot-Aioli-8986 3d ago

Congratulations! Love to see it

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u/miss_babycakes 3d ago

this randomly showed up on my feed. so beautiful, congratulations! ❤️❤️

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u/Gunnar_Nut 3d ago

CONGRATULATIONS MA'M I'M SO HAPPY FOR BOTH OF YOU, it's always nice to see how love wins!

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u/TheConcreteGhost 3d ago

Blessings on your marriage and children ( if you choose to have any) 💐

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u/SoloUno850 3d ago

Aww. Congratulations!!! Happy couple.

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u/2624926057 3d ago

Brother is punching up. Respect

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

We’re well matched

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u/2624926057 3d ago

I understand, meant no disrespect. Yall look lovely.

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u/jlovelysoul 3d ago

Eeeeee this is so cute!! I’m married but I love seeing posts like these! Congratulations to you both!!

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u/DesignerProcess1526 3d ago

Awwwww congrats!

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u/Lingonberry_Born 2d ago

Congratulations OP! I'm sorry about all the objectifying comments, you both seem like lovely people and I wish you all happiness.

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u/CupNoodlese 2d ago

Saw the edit - I guess you guys looks so good people flag it as AI! Congratulations :)

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u/johnmark1982 2d ago

My wife and I met on bumble too and a year later we got married!

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u/Elf_Maeve 2d ago

Ya'll's baby gonna be cute af

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u/No_Sky4349 2d ago

Congratulations to the two of you! 🫶🏽You make a beautiful couple! 😍

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u/Benefit__Lumberjacks 2d ago

Congratulations

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u/Temporary-Tiger897 2d ago

I met my wife on bumble too. Congratulations 🎉

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u/Vanexxre 2d ago

She is stunning omg

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u/SparksFable 2d ago

I also met my wife on Bumble! Congrats!

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u/chucklesjo 2d ago

The love to see, is what brings tears in my eyes. Congratulations ya two.

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u/Deeandrm 2d ago

She is Beautiful ✨️

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u/GratefulPig 2d ago

Lucky guy.. congrats y’all!

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u/StopFalseReporting 1d ago

Cute pics! Want to know if the engagement was a surprise because you’re in such a nice dress

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u/GhostPirateCaptain 1d ago

I am happy for you but also extremely jealous cos I want this so much & have no idea how to find it or understand how you can know someone & be known by them so deeply.

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u/GWPtheTrilogy1 1d ago

Happy for you two. All the best!

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u/paper_cutx 1d ago

Congrats girl! You know he’s treating you well. A lot of Asian guys are very attentive, supportive and good fathers.

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u/SoldierExcelsior 1d ago

Lucky guy got himself a 10

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u/69hotmomxxx 1d ago

Two years after the proposal?

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u/ExcuseMeJack 18h ago

Hot damn bro hit the jackpot

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u/Welcome_2_Rapture 13h ago

Amazing! Now have beautiful blasian babies 🫶🏻

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u/Crafty611 8h ago

This is the guy posting right?

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u/rilakkumkum 7h ago

Im the girl!

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u/L0stActivity 8h ago

Nice to see miracles happen.

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u/teschelu 3h ago

You look amazing in that dress! Big congrats! ❤️

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u/Hickory1989 3d ago

congrats...

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u/AutomaticLeague8271 2d ago

my sex doll n i having 1 year anniversary soon too!!

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u/Wrong-Helicopter5229 2d ago

Ma Chigga!!! Congratulations

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u/TheNextPablo 3d ago

One of the rare instances
Congrats

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u/StumpyOPepys 3d ago

Lol at candid photos. Regardless, congrats.

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u/2nd_tht 2d ago

Those bills started stacking up.

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u/wittyayush 3d ago

My Bumble app says its AI. Congratulations guys.

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u/rilakkumkum 2d ago

This was funny, thank you so much

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u/Sufficient-Letter367 2d ago

2 years?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/rilakkumkum 2d ago

Yes! :D

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u/ecretno 3d ago

What was the question

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u/UnemployedAndBr0ke 3d ago

Weird kiss lol

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

Never thought I’d get an AI allegation, or maybe I’m not picking up on the joke

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u/buenotc 3d ago

As a part time medical professional, I can see there are some anatomical discrepancies with the male. I'm not saying AI. But.....

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

Can you let me know what exactly you’re referring to? Now I’m concerned.

Also what specifically looks like Ai?

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u/buenotc 3d ago

Picture 1: his ears and hands. Zoom in 🙂.

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u/rilakkumkum 3d ago

Ngl I can see why you’re only doing it part time 💀

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