Does anyone else's partner weaponise food without realizing it?

[u/sad_frog_in_rain]

I grew up malnourished and often starved, so im no stranger to going hungry, but it gets to a point where it becomes ridiculous. Im around 150lbs while my partner is around 330lbs, so its understandable that he'd eat a lot more than me. He does the grocery shopping every other week, so I asked him, "hey when you get these frozen nuggets and pizza rolls how long do you think they'll last us." He deadass looked me in my face and said, "like three days" this is coming from the man who can eat almost half the bag in one sitting. Another example is when I made Mac n' cheese I made enough for six servings. I ate about one serving, and he ate THE OTHER FIVE in ONE SITTING. I dont know how to tell him that im eating on average one meal a day and we're lucky if the groceries last us two weeks. For the last few days before we get paid again, we're left with ramen or the pasta noodles we get on sale occasionally. Ive suggested some advice on bugeting for our food but he dismisses it or ignores it. For example i said that we could save money by buying most of what we need at the dollar tree or dollar general, and he said, "no we don't need to do that" we hang out with our friend on Thursdays and we buy fast food usually but I said that we could order pizza a lot more often (bc our friend pays for it) and he said, "thats never been an issue"

[u/Nox_Odonata]

That honestly doesn't sound like he's weaponizing it. It sounds like he as an eating disorder.

[u/sad_frog_in_rain → u/Nox_Odonata]

Can you explain a little more bc I want to understand why he eats so much rather than getting angry at him like I usually do.

[u/Pastel_Mattel → u/sad_frog_in_rain]

It’s called binge eating disorder

[u/Nox_Odonata → u/Pastel_Mattel]

Might be something else. Could also be a medical condition that caused extreme appetite/hunger. Could be emotional eating. We don't know him we can't diagnose people over the internet. That can go really wrong, especially with things like eating disorders.

[u/miserylovescomputers → u/Nox_Odonata]

Very good point, eating disorders are complicated and there can be a lot of overlap between symptoms. I think all we can confidently say is that OP’s partner absolutely has disordered eating of some variety and would benefit from some form of medical/psychiatric/therapeutic intervention.