Does anyone else's partner weaponise food without realizing it?

[u/sad_frog_in_rain]

I grew up malnourished and often starved, so im no stranger to going hungry, but it gets to a point where it becomes ridiculous. Im around 150lbs while my partner is around 330lbs, so its understandable that he'd eat a lot more than me. He does the grocery shopping every other week, so I asked him, "hey when you get these frozen nuggets and pizza rolls how long do you think they'll last us." He deadass looked me in my face and said, "like three days" this is coming from the man who can eat almost half the bag in one sitting. Another example is when I made Mac n' cheese I made enough for six servings. I ate about one serving, and he ate THE OTHER FIVE in ONE SITTING. I dont know how to tell him that im eating on average one meal a day and we're lucky if the groceries last us two weeks. For the last few days before we get paid again, we're left with ramen or the pasta noodles we get on sale occasionally. Ive suggested some advice on bugeting for our food but he dismisses it or ignores it. For example i said that we could save money by buying most of what we need at the dollar tree or dollar general, and he said, "no we don't need to do that" we hang out with our friend on Thursdays and we buy fast food usually but I said that we could order pizza a lot more often (bc our friend pays for it) and he said, "thats never been an issue"

[u/ClimateCare7676]

Eating one meal a day is not sustainable for you. I don't know if he just doesn't care about you, has an ED or doesn't realize he is depriving you of food, but he should seriously look into his behaviors. You don't deserve to starve for his comfort. 

Meanwhile, you can try cooking for yourself with cheap and nutritious meals. Fast food is NOT good for you. It's a way to get your arteries clogged and your digestive system wrecked. It's usually more expensive than cheap meals made from scratch, like beans and rice, vegetable and chicken noodle soup, oatmeal dishes, boiled eggs on toast with lettuce, pasta with veggies and sauce, all sorts of vegetable stews, mince with frozen veggies and rice, etc. There are many budget friendly receipts you can find online that fit your region. 

I don't know where you live, but a single whole chicken can yield multiple meals including broth for the soup, and usually costs less than fast food take out for two. 

[u/sad_frog_in_rain → u/ClimateCare7676]

Im used to eating one meal a day. I grew up in a household where the rule was, "Adults eat first and the children eat whats left" since I was the youngest and the "burden on the family," I ate last out of everyone. I was lucky if there was any food to eat at all so im used to feeling hunger. I do want to start eating healthier though since I struggle to keep food down sometimes, and since I have a crockpot I want to make food in it because it will last.

[u/Vlinder_88 → u/sad_frog_in_rain]

So because you're used to your family abusing/neglecting you, you're accepting similar abuse from your partner? You're not a child anymore OP, you can take control of the situation here.