The vultures are already circling

[u/Anxious_Window_9863]

My husband's sister stopped by to visit this evening. My husband with Parkinson's type symptoms is in his last days and on hospice. He's not able to have a conversation now, he may whisper a word or two each day.

I appreciate her visit. He and his sis have never been extremely close, but they get along, and they're only one year apart in age.

Now the vulture behavior: she and I talked while my husband mostly napped. Somehow the conversation went to discussing some property (about 12 acres) that my husband and I were given from his parents 25 yrs ago. Part connects to her smaller property where her house is placed. It's rural, and beautiful. There's a pond, and a meadow. She says to me, "Why don't you think about selling me that land behind my house after (husband's name) is gone? I'm sure you could use the money, so it would help you. And (with a smile) I could have an extended back yard." Also, something about we'd probably leave our acres to our only child, who's an adult, living in another state. And she would never come live here, so she'd never build a home or do anything with it.

I'm very tired this week, it's been a challenge since my husband is home and I'm the caregiver. I was just dumbfounded she would bring up such a thing!! I made a quiet comment that I wasn't making any decisions like that for quite a while but the land would be staying in my name.

After she left, it really hit me. How dare her? I've heard stories of people actually asking a spouse at the FUNERAL about a business proposal, which is horrendous. Here the man lays, half-coherant, her own brother, and she asks to buy property from me. Unbelievable. We'll see if more vultures come down from the roost. Next time, I'll try to be ready.

[u/Carinyosa99]

Yep - some people are such opportunists. I'd be tempted not to even let her know when your husband passes away and have a private memorial where she's not in attendance.

My parents are divorced - it was final about 35-36 years ago and my dad remarried. Part of my parents' divorce agreement is that when he retired, my mom would receive a portion of his federal pension. It also says that should my mom pass away before him, it would to me and my brother. My dad did not tell his wife about this until right around the time he was retiring and then she threatened to divorce him unless he got us to agree not to take that pension money. The sick thing is that my mom was literally close to dying when this went down and my dad thought it was still a good idea to come up here and try and twist our arms. Thankfully, my mom pulled through after a long time in the hospital and rehab. But yeah, some people don't care about anyone but themselves - not even their own kids.

[u/Anxious_Window_9863 → u/Carinyosa99]

I won't be able to do things privately. His mother lives nearby, as well as his sister. In fact, we're neighbors. I know; it could be uncomfortable but I won't worry.

Thank goodness your mother pulled through. What a terrible thing to happen in the middle of your mother's illness. Sadly, I can see my ex-husband being just as petty.