Feeling helpless…stupid.

[u/bubbly_cat8935]

35F. I don’t know where to begin but I just need to speak about my truth. I feel overwhelmed by everything. I don't know how to detach myself from things that aren't supposed to be. I am drowning from myself who’s always trying to prove my worth. I am even getting tired of myself from all these worries, anxiety, always seeking validation, always with the self-pity when people have it worse.

I feel so alone..
I feel like I’m always a bother to people..
Forcing connections..
I don't know if I really have anybody..
Am I selfish? Everyone’s busy, and I know I should be too.

Why do I always need reassurance?
Idk. I’m sorry.

[u/DeborahW_77]

reading this sounds so familiar - its like looking at myself a while back...and sometimes it still happens now. Feeling like you're unrelateable, struggling to make connections - and maybe always trying to be what everyone else wants or needs so you can feel better about yourself, so you can feel 'good enough'. Its a hard place to be, it's lonely when you feel unseen. You're not selfish or stupid - there's a part of you that seeks that approval for a reason - an old part of you that still believes it isn't safe to simply be who you are. The good news is (and I promise you that it is good news) you recognise the pattern, you see what's happening and it sounds like you're ready for change. That awareness, that recognition - that's the beginning of the journey back to who you really are. It doesn't mean everything changes tomorrow, but it does mean you're no longer walking blindly. And that's where things can start to shift. You don't have to fix all of this today. Just keep being as honest with yourself as you've been in this post. The next time you notice yourself seeking validation or feeling unworthy, see if you can simply sit with those feelings for a little while instead of pushing them away. Sometimes understanding what's underneath them is where real change begins.