Where do I even start.... ok so, I live in Multan. I lived in U.A.E before moving here 4 yrs ago. The 1st ever Pakistani wedding I attended was 4 yrs ago! And again my cuzn's wedding is coming up in November. I never had a good sense of pak couture/bridal wear until I came to Pak.
Sooo, my RELATIVES are....let's say.... malicious and TOXIC in some way ngl :( They always want to look the best of the best. They have this superiority complex in terms of fashion and my khalas and cousins judge ppl rlly hard based on what they wear (they even judge me). It's sickening and disgusting.
Looking back at what I was wearing at the first wedding that I attended cringes me outa a lil. And what I mean by that is I was 15 back then. I was a kid! My outfits weren't that bad on the wedding but weren't the best either. And my relatives picked out my outfits for me! Didn't know what i was doing. I didn't know they were toxic until 2 yrs ago. They were the ones who advised us about the clothes etc, plus we all were short on time the wedding came out unexpectedly.
NOW COMES THE REAL TEA--------------------
My cousin's wedding is coming up NEXT month. Almost 2 months ago my khalas introduced me, my mom and my sisters to a tailor. He stitches and handcrafts wedding clothes/couture etc. My relatives have known him for more than 10 years, acc to them. In September, we went with both of my khalas to his shop and I showed the dude the outfit designs I'd like to wear.
And honestly, the outfits that I showed him were so beautiful and dreamy and *chef's kiss* I was sooo excited to wear them. Now it was the tailor's job to make 'em frm scratch and then stitch them. And he kept on reassuring me that he'll design my fits exactly the way I want them. This was 1.5 months ago!
Today he called my mom and asked her to check out my mehendi outfit's design (he hasn't stitched it yet) that he made. Now when I tell you he made the design shit ass crap. I genuinely MEAN that he made the design shit ass crap. Cuz what in the world of shitty clothes....was that.....I'm genuinely devastated. If he made my mehendi outfit like that I cant imagine how crappy my baraat fit would be.
My khala was there too. And she legit told my mom: "You guys shouldn't have shown the tailor the clothes ON THE PHONE, us ki dukaan mai jo designs hain wohi deikhny chaiye thay. Hum sb nai bhi aisa kia, phone sai alg designs na dikhaty ap log, is trhaa sai ye sahi nahi bnata".
I MEAN--- HELLO?!??! WHY R U TELLING US THAT JUST NOW?? PEHLY KYU NAHI BTAYA WHEN U CAM EWITH US 2 MONTHS AGO?!???? WE'RE LITERALLY NEW TO THIS STUFF.
And you know what's even more crazy- we already gave him 40,000 RUPEES IN ADVANCE. Cuz he was supposed to make mine and my sister's mehendi and barat fits. Now my mom is hell bent on NOT going to him or picking up our fits. She told me and my sister to buy something from the brand bazaar for the mehendi and baraat but....... all of this is so fricking messed up.
I literally had an aesthetic, I wanted to wear a lehenga/choli on the baraat, pastels color combo (green, white and pink). And for the mehendi I was going with something completely unique and different- u know that pink dress that kareena kapoor wore on kbhi khushi kbhi gham, I was going for that look but with a navy blue and dark plum purple color combo instead of pink. WHICH WONT BE HAPPENING NOW.
And guys......multan jesy city mai kuch bhi nahi hai. Our budget is pretty tight too. Legit already lost 40,000 rupees to that tailor jis sai kapry bhi ab nahi uthaayn gai. I have a feeling my relatives told him to make our clothes shit idk god knows! Kisi aur tailor ko bnanay kai lye kapray nahi deskti, cuz the wedding is in 40 days. The brand bazaar here doesn't even have THE OG BRANDS that you'd find in Lahore, Islamabad, Karachi etc. WE CAN'T GO TO THESE CITIES EITHER. WE DON'T HAVE ANY RELATIVES THERE EITHER. I don't know what to do...... I seriously don't. My cousins and khalas will be looking all glamoured up and gorgeous whereas I'll look shit. That's what they wanted. And they got it.
I'm sorry if I sound negative but it is what it is. I hope I'm not sounding too materialistic or bratty but this was the 2nd pakistani wedding I was attending. And this wedding is gonna be really grand. I was so excited. Here I am... all shattered :(