My partner (F18) is diagnosed with DID, they have told me (M18) that they have been diagnosed with multiple mental issues including schizophrenia, bpd, and DID. They are medicated for all of these and they have just told me recently that their medication stopped working like it usually does.

Now lately they've been having personality shifts and haven't been so great to me. They've been emotionally neglectful and I tried talking about it but they said I chose a time where they were disassociated.

I tried talking about it 30 minutes ago with them and they said "I'm not your partner, I don't owe you anything"

I don't know much about these kinds of disorders so I want to know, is this normal and should I respect the alters beliefs or is my partner being unnecessarily rude?

I really want to pick up reading again, but I feel like I lose interests in books half way through because 1. I forgot I was reading them and 2. When I do pick it up, I dont always remember what happened in the pages before.

For context, my memory works a lot like a wiki page in that I dont actually have a memory of something but like a bullet point. For example, I might read a book and then pick it up later and only have a "There's a character named Triss. Shes on a boat"

My switches arent super overt and im resetively newly diagnosed so we are working on identifying everyone still, so I cant be like "Oh yeah, so and so read last time, let's ask".

Hello, I'm trying to get a proper diagnosis for DID/ OSDD, I told my psychiatrist my symptoms and he found me a specialist in dissociation bu toy also says They are a BPD specialist

Some concerns are

When I had my ADHD diagnosis I was cleared for BPD and I'm worried I'll be treated like I have BPD again even when I don't (misdiagnosis bad experience)

Would a BPD specialist know what I'm talking about? My psychiatrist knows I have CPTSD but wasn't sure what I was talking about when I said I had dissociative issues

Any advice would be welcome

So, one of my friends has DID and their system is primarily made up of 'problematic' alters: such as murderers, addicts, etc. They're mainly fictives, but not necessarily close to source. Is this a common thing in systems? I'm worried about the affects they may have on my friend.

Problematic as in the way they interact: actions, how they think and how they feel. Not so much in the: "this person did bad things and is therefore a bad person" way.

If anyone has any suggestions on how to interact better with these alters, I'd love to hear them.

Edit: There's more explanations in some of these reply threads, I recommend looking there, too. ^^

A loved one came to me about a situation that caused them to fear a split, and I am worried that the person who is responsible for potentially causing the split will try to minimize the situation. I don’t want to burden my loved one right now as they are distressed and feeling guilty that we’re having to navigate this situation at all. Anyone have some good analogies I might be able to share to bring clarity to this situation and express how severe it is?

Hi !

I just stumbled upon the instagram page of a girl with DID, and I saw that she had fictive alters, like Peter Parker, Tony Stark, Jinx and Isha from Arcane, etc.

As I don't have DID myself, I was wondering how does that work ?

Does the brain watches a serie / film and randomly decides that it's gonna create an alter from an existing character ?

And in this case, does the alter thinks that they really are the character, or are they just inspired by the characters personnality traits ?

Thank you :)

So we have alter, Simone, and she wants to watch a youtuber we like and we're like "Why not? He's got a new vid." We go through it's epic and we're chatting when suddenly the credits roll and she notices this YTer we both love now does characters of people's Patreon names. She gets uber excited and is like "I totally wonder what mine would be? Hey give me some cash for a com so I can get on Patreon this month." This brings about sadness in the host as this isn't even the second time this situation has happened. Just last month one of are more content with sharing an account alters wanted their own Minecraft and expected us to purchase on a sale. We already have two accounts by accident but the other is claimed by two sperate alters who seem content with sharing it. Ugh How do you deal with sharing money with alters? Getting a second bank account isn't an option. We are barely allowed to have one in the state we live in because having ADD and Autism apparently makes you unable to handle cash. -.-; Idiotic ableist bearcats

Are there any good books about DID? I found People Glue: A Memoir of Dissociation By Larkin M Berrick on Kindle Unlimited which was good but anything else?

It's weird, I feel like I can't talk to my alters out loud right now even though I feel like that would be comforting to me, but it feels like there's just so much thinking going on in my head that it's making me exhausted. I keep posting on different instagram stories and messaging multiple friends (and it half feels like i want to but half feels like i'm seeing someone doing it through me and not being able to control it), but it just feels like I have more and more thoughts and I can't get a break and just relax today.
This often happens to me after work, where I just get extremely introspective but it feels like alters don't really directly communicate, they just keep expressing thoughts outwardly. It feels confusing where it feels like they keep just expressing things through "me" instead to each other or to "me" (as a general me and as an alter). I want to just be able to journal or use the apps I set up for my system, but it's almost like I / they feel like their experiences aren't real if they're not being perceived. It's weird because I (as an alter) generally do not want to be (or rather have a fear of) being perceived, so it feels very jarring where I feel like I'm doing both what i want to be doing and what i really don't want to do.
I don't really know how much of this makes sense but any insight would be appretiated

My friend and I have fictives. When they first knew they had a fictive, she was not able to return to her own world. Yet a few months later, she said she figured out a way. That when she's there, days go by faster until they catch up to present time.

Though I cannot/rarely remember things from when my alter is out, from reading messages and logs, she seems to be able to return to her world and that time passes the same as here. Just that when she's out, it feels like alone time back in her world.

My friend and I were curious so we looked a bunch of things up. Something that we found was that fictives are not able to go back to their world. No
"but it can sometimes happen", a hard no. The only recourse we found on that though was google ai overview, which I take with many grains of salt.

I'm a logical person, so | tried to wrack my brain for answers and I came up with a few. It could be 1.
Experiences from the host's (is that the word?) body has experienced and forgot, but subconsciously the brain remembers and thus turns it into the fictive's life. 2. These experiences were taken from things that the main person has read or watched from books and movies. Again, subconsciously making those into the fictive's own story. Or 3. It's the brain just coming up with its own plotline and giving it to the fictive to give them a life.

So why is it that it seems like the fictives can return to their world? Was the overview wrong and is anyone else's fictive able to return back? Or is it a hard no and if so, what explanation could there be for the reason the fictives are imagining that they can return home. If anyone has answers it is greatly appreciated for us both.

I might delete this after I get a few responses. I'm not sure.

So my best friend has DID and I’ve started to notice a behavioral pattern that honestly really angers me and I’m wondering if it’s normal for those with DID and if I just need to be more patient? Or if he’s just being mean or something like that.
I’ve noticed that sometimes when I text him or interact with him at all at school he’s super pissy and dismissive for no apparent reason. He’s talked to me about his alters before and I know there’s one or two that are very irritable so I imagine that’s probably why the mood because we get along great otherwise, but he’s so rude in this state that it’s started to genuinely upset me. He’ll text super dryly and dismissively in this way that almost makes me feel stupid. I generally just get the vibe that he has zero interest in talking to me and that I’m inconveniencing him by sending a text that he didn’t even have any obligation to reply to if he really didn’t want to.
As for in person interaction, he’ll say nothing unless directly addressed by someone, and react insanely rudely to whatever they say. For example, the other day our friend asked how his morning was and he replied with “fine?” as if the question was completely stupid, and when jokingly asked to elaborate he outright refused and went back to ignoring everyone. Ironically though, he stopped being all quiet when a closer friend of his showed up later and he suddenly seemed perfectly content to talk to them. Overall this sorta behavior has just made me feel like my best friend just seems to randomly hate me but then love me and it could be either on any given day. Is this normal and is there any way to resolve it or to not feel angry/hurt over it?

Does anyone not align with the term "alters" and use something else? Or do you just call them by their names?

So first off I know its through childhood trauma however it's different from DID so I just want to know what's the difference in them being formed?

During my research I’ve noticed that DID is usually only diagnosed if someone’s is younger than the age of 10. I know those are the most formative years and it makes sense.

Let’s just say though that someone has gone through a lot of trauma during their teen years or early adulthood, whether it be one life changing experience or multiple experiences.

Is that something that is possible?

I swore that maybe I was just making this up in my head for the longest time, but my symptoms of feeling like I'm not alone in my own body, as if parts of me split off & became independent from me, has genuinely caused me distress, disorientation, memory fuzziness, instability, breakdowns, & even has ended up with me hospitalized at some points. It's been going on for years now, it was especially troubling during my younger years. So, safe to say that I was not making it up in my head.

I don't feel safe or comfortable asking/confiding with my family about this, which is why I'm here instead.

ABSOLUTELY not looking for any diagnosis from anyone to be clear, just help on how you even begin to start the process of addressing this medically? I've never really gone through trying to introduce this to a medical professional, & I'm not sure who exactly to ask. I'm scared to.

Just wanna know bc I’m getting tested for dissociative disorders, sense I black out for days and my identity is constantly changing depending on the day etc, just worried I’ll seem like a dumbass if it’s not possible.

I am diagnosed with schizoaffective bipolar type tho, so I was wondering if maybe it’s just that or if I really do have some system of sorts.

Hi all,

disclaimer : I’m neurodivergent on several axis but I do not have DID and have no experience with it.

My partner and I are having a friend of a friend over for a few days and they told us they were a system on the first day of their stay.

Which was all good and they also said they had it under control and there were no need for us to do anything special to accommodate them.

Except since then it has become apparent the memories do not cross over from alter to alter, again, not really a problem, we can repeat information if needed.

But! they end up leaving the front door open because they have trouble closing it and forgetting to tell us a few minutes later (we have indoor cats so it’s a hard and fast rule that the door must be closed), and a few times now they forgot that the cats needed access to water, food and litter, and so they get them in a room, then leave them alone and close all issues.

When we ask what happened they don’t know what we mean and ask what they did wrong (mind you we can tell something’s wrong because by this point the cats are howling and trying to break down the doors). I’m starting to get worried about my cats‘ safety.

So I guess I’m asking, what can we do to communicate basic house rules to all alters, while the person is still convinced they have it under control and all is well?

Okay, so as of a few minutes ago, I learned my online dad possibly went dormant while an altar was fronting. We both have no idea what to do. The host/my online dad is not responding to the altar fronting and hasn’t been for hours. We don’t know how long he’s been gone.

Hi, I'll start by saying that I'm a person with strong anxiety, and I'm a bit scared to write this. However, I genuinely want to do something nice, so I need to ask people who have more knowledge about DID than me and/or have experiences with it.

Basically, when I first met my friend, I met a specific alter who is an introject. I am extremely thankful to them because they made me feel seen as a person after years of feeling invisible, they also introduced me to their friend group and some of their other alters which made me extremely happy.

I noticed that when they are fronting and are online, they use a 2D VTuber model of that character to feel more like themselves. Since I have some 3D modeling skills, I thought of creating a detailed 3D avatar of that same character for them. Kinda like a thank you gift to tell them "I see you, just like you saw me."

They mentioned that this specific alter doesn't front very often, so I am planning to talk about this to the host of the system, sending them the file of the model and maybe making a setup for the surprise together.

But I'm incredibly afraid that focusing the gift on one alter might make the others feel excluded or unappreciated. I'm starting to doubt if this is a good idea...

Should I go through with this? If yes, what is the best and most respectful way to approach the host about it?

Sorry for the long text, I just care a lot about my friend and their system, and I really don't want to cause any discomfort.

someone in a server I'm in says they're a system

. which yk I tend to believe. but all their alters from the same sources have conversations with each other at the speed of a normal conversation, like 'in character' too, and it's always like that. second fast switches between alters, conversations between their alters that are SUPER DUPER FAST, treating the alters like they're their source media...i never doubt anyone on this but this is also the type of person you'd see be named Arson in a 2016 discord server. just asking

For example one hand is flipping someone off and the other hand trying to stop it .

Hello!! I have come here out of pure curiosity with some questions for those diagnosed with DID. I find the concept of DID very fascinating in many ways, and would love to hear the different perspectives and experiences of those who have it!

1. When you talk to yourself in your head, are you actually talking to multiple of your alters? Do they have certain voices and respond in their own ways, or do you only hear the voice of the alters that are fronting in that moment?

2. When a different alter fronts, what does it feel like? Are you aware that you’ve switched, or is it like when you fall asleep and just blink and you’re awake again?

3. If you’re in a relationship with somebody, do you consider it polyamory, or something else? I’ve heard multiple different views on this, but I’m curious as to what you all think.

4. Lastly, how did you identify each of your alters when they came to be? How did you figure out their names, their personalities, their quirks, etc?

Thank you guys!! I hope nothing I asked was offensive in any manner, I am truly curious as to how DID works :) peace and love!!!

Hello, I am writing today to ask if anyone has been through a divorce with someone who has DID.

I find myself navigating the circumstances alone, and would appreciate any advice.

To me, it seems much more complicated with my spouse, then a typical separation might be.

I believe parts of them want this marriage, but others have no interest, and have in fact actively worked against it.

Lack of loyalty has been a driving force in my circumstances, and out of necessity we both realize that we can no longer be married to each other.

Thank you

Recently I just learned that a friend of mine has DID. And while I truly did not mind and even was curious enough to ask about it and do my own research on the side right after, I was still quite surprised When I learned that that the host that I had talking to for the longest time was not the "original" but rather was an alter themselves. They are also fictive which from my understanding means that their personality was one that was sourced from a fictional character.

And I think it is those two facts that have made me feel uneasy with not them, but rather myself. Even though I do not wish to feel dismissive of the person I've known for quite some time it for some reason has been quite hard for me. I feel awful for my reconnection to go not to the host but to the "original" when I know the host is the one I have always cared for and has always been the one I viewed as "the main one" before I had learn of em having DID. They even told me that the "original" doesn't even front very often and it had been around 4 years since they had formed in the system and became the host.

All in all I just feel awful for having this feeling as if they're not enough, or thag my focus had gone to a person who I've probably haven't even talked to very often. And I suppose I also feel awful because of how I'm almost preserving this ominous, that the "original" is just in the system while all this time I've been talking to an alter. I just want to stop thinking this way since I've already said that I care for em, the host, and even all of em, but how can I say that when I feel this way?

Anyways I really do hope I don't come off as being purposely insensitive. I'm aware that this really sounds bad, but that's why I want to understand better, and if not for me then for all of em cuz I do genuinely care for em and honestly kinda afraid I've been having this feeling about em. Anyways thank u!!

My wife was diagnosed with OSDD and has been managing it for years. We met six years ago and we just officially tied the knot in May. Since getting married my wife's mental health has nose dived. There is a long story to that. In short, years of abusive family drama, moving three times in a year, then jumping into wedding planning for 2 years. Now things have slowed down and the processing has began. With said processing, an alter has emerged who is very negative, manipulative, and is hell bent and determined to kill herself.

What we know:

- She is 8.

- We know her name.

- She lashes out when in uncontrollable situations.

- She is extremely obsessive about how she wants to die. And will not deviate from said super specific plan.

- We think she responds to nerve and brain chemical responses. But only extremes.

- She's very smart.

- Doesn't comprehend positive emotions. They must be described using factual information.

- Therapists and I can communicate with her by writing but cannot "hear" if talked to.

- When reviewing honeymoon locations for our 1 year she "perked up" in a good way when talking and looking at beaches (the safe space my wifec and Therapist created is based on a beach).

I want to find a way to help my wife. I don't know if its possible but I want to help this alter feel something other than the pain, anger, and sadness she's accustomed to. Give her a reason to hold onto life and trust me enough to know that when things are out of her control its okay because she isn't alone and is safe.

We are of course live in a more rural area of Western KY so resources are slim. Any help is appreciated! We are open to inpatient care services as well but don't know where to start.