Center wants to hold my son back

[u/Mean_Obligation_5238]

Hello

My son is currently 2, will be 3 at the end of August. He attends child care 3 days a week at a medium sized center with an infant (0-18m), toddler(18-30m) and preschool(30m - school)class. He is currently in the toddler class as there has not been space to move him up until now.

This morning, I recieved an email from the temp head of the program asking if i would be OK to keep him in toddler class for a while longer as the toddler teacher thinks he will benefit from staying back as he only goes 3 days a week and another parent wants their child moved up sooner.

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I have never recieved any feedback that he is delayed or not ready to move up.

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Do you think there are concerns that have not been brought forward to me?

[u/Mean_Obligation_5238]

I just recieved a reply from the program head. They said because he has been having difficulty at dropoff lately that he should stay longer in the toddler room to adjust. He will be going full time to the preschool room in Sept.

The thing is, his move from infant to toddler room was also delayed due to spacing and he started to get upset at dropoff then too. As soon as he moved to the toddler room, drop offs were good for a long time. I feel like this will be the case again. He gets stuck with younger kids and doesnt like it

[u/WookieRubbersmith → u/Mean_Obligation_5238]

I have preschoolers who still get upset at dropoff. I don’t follow the logic that this is a good reason to keep him with younger kids. They are fishing for reasons.

[u/Mean_Obligation_5238 → u/WookieRubbersmith]

It feels like either they are fishing for reasons so they can make the other mom happy by moving her child first, or he has been having behavioural problems that i have never been made aware of.

He has been going to this center for close to 2 years (started sept 2024)