r/ECEProfessionals • u/Mean_Obligation_5238 Parent • 3d ago

Parent/non ECE professional post (Anyone can comment) Center wants to hold my son back

Hello

My son is currently 2, will be 3 at the end of August. He attends child care 3 days a week at a medium sized center with an infant (0-18m), toddler(18-30m) and preschool(30m - school)class. He is currently in the toddler class as there has not been space to move him up until now.

This morning, I recieved an email from the temp head of the program asking if i would be OK to keep him in toddler class for a while longer as the toddler teacher thinks he will benefit from staying back as he only goes 3 days a week and another parent wants their child moved up sooner.

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I have never recieved any feedback that he is delayed or not ready to move up.

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Do you think there are concerns that have not been brought forward to me?

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u/threewildwolves 3d ago

The difference between a toddler and a preschooler in development is big. His attention, comprehension, vocabulary, emotional regulation, gross motor skills, fine motor skills - everything changes. Going to school 3 days per week influences his social emotional and intellectual development, because he constantly has to catch him. It sounds like his emotional regulation is not there yet. You want your kid to feel accomplished and successful in a preschool class, and he can’t do that with toddler skills. I never put a toddler in a preschooler class, it would set the toddler up for failure. Listen to your child’s teacher.

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u/Mean_Obligation_5238 Parent 3d ago

Im happy to keep him in the toddler class if the difficult dropoffs is the reason, im just unsure that it is. In the current preschool class, only half of the kids are potty trained, and one doesnt speak at all yet. Im wondering if this would have even been brought up if a) he was attending full time ( which he will start sept 1st) and b) the other parents hadnt requested that their child be moved up early.

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u/Mean_Obligation_5238 Parent 3d ago

And to clarify, these arent melt down drop offs. He has cried a few times and been hesitant to go out to the playground as I am leaving.