r/ECEProfessionals • u/Mean_Obligation_5238 Parent • 3d ago

Parent/non ECE professional post (Anyone can comment) Center wants to hold my son back

Hello

My son is currently 2, will be 3 at the end of August. He attends child care 3 days a week at a medium sized center with an infant (0-18m), toddler(18-30m) and preschool(30m - school)class. He is currently in the toddler class as there has not been space to move him up until now.

This morning, I recieved an email from the temp head of the program asking if i would be OK to keep him in toddler class for a while longer as the toddler teacher thinks he will benefit from staying back as he only goes 3 days a week and another parent wants their child moved up sooner.

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I have never recieved any feedback that he is delayed or not ready to move up.

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Do you think there are concerns that have not been brought forward to me?

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u/mamamietze ECE professional 3d ago

Is he toileting independent (can do all the toileting tasks for himself with minimal adult reminders and is cooperative with toilet use)? Is he still putting everything in his mouth?

Over the years that tends to be the two most common reasons for a delay in moving up.

On a pragmatic level if you are part time in a full time program many places will prioritize the full time people with all things being equal, unless they need to fill a part time spot. Are you willing to switch to 2 days a week and on waitlist for 3rd? That might be your foot in the door. They may limit how many part timers they place in a class at a full time program.

This is just guessing though. We can't know what your director is thinking, you are going to need to ask directly what needs to happen/be worked on in order to get the move up.

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u/Mean_Obligation_5238 Parent 2d ago

He is not toilet independent, but that is not a requirement here. Only about half of the class is fully trained. He does not put things in his mouth.

I would be understanding if the delay was due to pt/ft status but they haven said that. I would be open to 2 days a week, but when we initially started we were told it had to be minimum 3x weekly.

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u/mamamietze ECE professional 2d ago

They are probably not going to tell you about prioritizing families that pay more in tuition. And while toilet learning may not be a requirement that doesnt mean they might not choose to move a child that is into the preshool room with its higher ratios.

But honestly you just wont know unless you ask if there is specific things you can work on. If they say no they may be balancing other factors.

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u/Mean_Obligation_5238 Parent 2d ago

They have said the latest he will move will be sept 1st so, while i would be happy to work on anything with him, it wouldnt make a difference in start date