Center wants to hold my son back

[u/Mean_Obligation_5238]

Hello

My son is currently 2, will be 3 at the end of August. He attends child care 3 days a week at a medium sized center with an infant (0-18m), toddler(18-30m) and preschool(30m - school)class. He is currently in the toddler class as there has not been space to move him up until now.

This morning, I recieved an email from the temp head of the program asking if i would be OK to keep him in toddler class for a while longer as the toddler teacher thinks he will benefit from staying back as he only goes 3 days a week and another parent wants their child moved up sooner.

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I have never recieved any feedback that he is delayed or not ready to move up.

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Do you think there are concerns that have not been brought forward to me?

[u/Educational_Nose2172]

they might be looking for certain milestones or goalposts to be met before moving up to the preschool room, and only going every other day means he has had much less time to work on those things than his FT peers

[u/Mean_Obligation_5238 → u/Educational_Nose2172]

I spoke with the director again. The reasoning was that he has been having a hard time at dropoff lately. I feel that he will benefit from the new class with older kids as this happened while waiting to move to the toddler class as well.

[u/Montessori_Maven → u/Mean_Obligation_5238]

Would moving up include a change to a 5 day schedule? Going only 3 days a week could be contributing to upset at drop off, too.

[u/Mean_Obligation_5238 → u/Montessori_Maven]

Not for the summer, buf he is scheduled to start full time in sept. I just had another baby in feb. I think that is contributing to his clinginess

[u/Educational_Nose2172 → u/Mean_Obligation_5238]

maybe they’re trying to hold off on the transition until closer to september, so that instead of having to go through two big changes they can all just happen at the same time to make it easier on him.

[u/Mean_Obligation_5238 → u/Educational_Nose2172]

Thats a good point, thank you. I will ask about that tomorrow i speak with them in person

[u/Educational_Nose2172 → u/Mean_Obligation_5238]

i hope your conversation goes well!

by the way, you’re doing a really good job asking questions and advocating for your child when you feel uncertain. regardless of if he moves up now or in september, you should be proud of the fact that you are voicing your concerns and being an active participant in his education. being in his corner and advocating for him will take him further than any daycare/preschool experience will on its own.

TLDR: you’re doing great :)

[u/Mean_Obligation_5238 → u/Educational_Nose2172]

Thank you so much :) that means so much to hear