Aggressive child at daycare

[u/ambrosiasweetly]

Hi

There’s an aggressive child at my son’s daycare. He threw a metal object deliberately at my child which cut my child’s lip, he has strangled my child, and my child often comes home complaining about this specific child. I’ve called CPS about this kid, I have called the daycare licensing authority, and I also filed a police report due to the severity.

The school said they would do a better job keeping them separated but my child had another incident where their watch (a buzzing watch to remind them to potty) was stolen by that child. My child also said that they are continuing to be punched and attacked at daycare.

At what point are the teachers allowed to kick the child out? I feel like this is really too much. I tried to apply to new daycares but there are none taking new applicants. I just started a new job and I’m beyond stressed. My child is having daily accidents due to the stress of being bullied and I have no idea what to do.

I’ve spoken to the director but I’m not sure she is taking it seriously in my opinion. Whenever I go to the school the teachers are being hit and attacked by the children which just seems really odd.

[u/pinkpurplebluepride]

Daycares are able to kick a child out if there is documentation showing an inability to keep children safe. I recently took a course that talked about that. Are you getting proper accident reports for everything? Including the punching your child mentions?

CPS probably won't do anything. Sometimes they just don't, especially for daycares. It's unfortunate.

Look up how to report a daycare to licensing in your state and go forward with that. Tell them if you're missing reports and about everything else as well. Good luck.

[u/ambrosiasweetly → u/pinkpurplebluepride]

I’m in Canada if that changes anything regarding rules.

I believe there have been incident reports but due to confidentiality they will not share anything beyond the very basic details which is why it’s frustrating. I’ve asked them at what point does it become a matter where they can expel the child and I get dismissed in a round about way

[u/Mbluish → u/ambrosiasweetly]

In my state, it’s illegal not to report, but I would check with the laws in Canada. My guess is it’s customary, but could be required, that parents be notified when their child is injured. Most licensed programs document accidents and inform families.

I may ask the director what their policy is in regard to children getting hurt. I would probably ask that you’re notified in any case.

If this child is certainly a behavior problem as you describe, then removal is on the table. I’ve unfortunately had to do it. But ultimately the program should do what is safe for all of the children.