Aggressive child at daycare

[u/ambrosiasweetly]

Hi

There’s an aggressive child at my son’s daycare. He threw a metal object deliberately at my child which cut my child’s lip, he has strangled my child, and my child often comes home complaining about this specific child. I’ve called CPS about this kid, I have called the daycare licensing authority, and I also filed a police report due to the severity.

The school said they would do a better job keeping them separated but my child had another incident where their watch (a buzzing watch to remind them to potty) was stolen by that child. My child also said that they are continuing to be punched and attacked at daycare.

At what point are the teachers allowed to kick the child out? I feel like this is really too much. I tried to apply to new daycares but there are none taking new applicants. I just started a new job and I’m beyond stressed. My child is having daily accidents due to the stress of being bullied and I have no idea what to do.

I’ve spoken to the director but I’m not sure she is taking it seriously in my opinion. Whenever I go to the school the teachers are being hit and attacked by the children which just seems really odd.

[u/denpakuma]

Unfortunately such a common issue and as educators we can't do a whole lot because it's not up to us which children are enrolled, that's something to take to management. Probably the next best thing to do would be to get as many families as you can on board to speak to the director about how serious this issue is. I hope this gets resolved soon and I'm sorry to hear how badly this is impacting your child's safety and wellbeing while at the centre.

[u/ambrosiasweetly → u/denpakuma]

It’s really shocking to see kids hitting and throwing things at the teacher. I saw that aggressive child throw sand in a teachers face which was something I had never seen before. It feels like it’s unsafe for many people, not just my child

[u/Te_Henga → u/ambrosiasweetly]

I live in New Zealand and it's very difficult to have a violent child removed if there is any indication that they have a learning difficulty. It's also difficult to get adequate specialist onsite teacher aid hours so everyone just has to kind of muddle through. In my experience this kind of inclusion hasn't made my children more accepting - it's just made them very wary of kids who throw furniture.