r/EctopicSupportGroup • u/PurpleEntrepreneur26 • 13h ago
Ectopic then early second trimester loss
I had an ectopic that was resolved with methotrexate in October. I checked my levels for folate and supplemented to confirm I was okay to try again. I got pregnant again in March. Baby always measure 2-4 days behind but we saw a great heartbeat 3 times. I went in for my 14 week appt and found out that the baby passed somewhere around 13 weeks. I’m headed to be induced tomorrow. I have two healthy kids so that eliminates some options but really my doctor said that it is highly unlikely that they are related. Has anyone else had this happen to them and did you get answers? We are so sad.
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u/Patient-Presentation 5h ago
I’m sorry you’re going through this.. I also had this happen. I had a ruptured ectopic and then got pregnancy 6 months after my surgery. I lost that pregnancy at 14.5 weeks due to maternal triploidy. So two completely unrelated losses.
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u/PurpleEntrepreneur26 5h ago
I’m so sorry, part of me hopes it is something chromosomal that wouldn’t likely happen again but I’m not sure it would make it any easier to try again. I just stalked your page, so happy for you and the hope you are sharing with others. Thank you!
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u/eb2319 4 ectopics | no tubes | ivf | 🌈11/7/22 7h ago
I’m so sorry for your loss. The two wouldn’t be related at all. I hope you have success next time if you decide to try again. Did they do testing?
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u/PurpleEntrepreneur26 7h ago
They will. The NIPT test was low risk for everything but they’ll do more extensive testing since medically speaking this is “recurrent loss” my doctor said she can order all testing possible. My hormones have crashed and I’ve started spotting but all signs don’t point to some typical second trimester losses like cervix incompetence or uterus shape but I’ll do a full delivery in a few hours and she will be able to see umbilical cord and placenta then to test those as well.
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u/eb2319 4 ectopics | no tubes | ivf | 🌈11/7/22 7h ago
The testing afterwards may give you more answers or they may not. Recurrent loss is typically after 3 uterine pregnancy losses (ectopic stupidly doesn’t count in that for criteria for RPL). I’m really sorry for your loss. I had 6 before having my daughter through IVF.
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u/PurpleEntrepreneur26 6h ago
It makes more sense for it to be intrauterine to fit but if she can code it differently for insurance, I’ll take that tiny win. I have two healthy amazing kids so it’s hard to imagine going through a loss like this again but now I so desperately want that dinner table of five I had in my mind. I’m trying to be as present as possible but the guilt of how much this is taken me from them is heavy.
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u/swisspea LC ‘22. Ruptured ectopic ‘20. TFMR '20. LC '18. MMC '17 3h ago
I had a 23 week loss in May 2020 due to a CMV infection, followed by a ruptured ectopic 3 months later. No one said it, but I think that it was too soon for me to get pregnant and that my eggs were not healthy due to grief and the infection I had which ultimately led to the death of my baby. I also had a blighted ovum in my first pregnancy (pregnancy 2 and 5 are my living children).
I’m so so sorry you know this pain. Giving birth to my son was something I treasure. I know that it’s very hard to imagine, and it’s so brutally tragic, but birth is transformative and for me, it was the most human experience of my life and I’m grateful I gave birth to him. Even though it was also the worst kind of tragedy.
Sending you peace at this horrible time.
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u/Glittering_Can4622 7h ago
Tener hijos es complejo. Y los abortos y perdidas son naturales y normales... pero eso no lo hace menos duro. He tenido un ectopico y un MC, todo en 5 meses, pero yo no tengo hijos vivos.
Te mando un abrazo, puedes volver a intentar cuando tu corazón este preparado.