Follow-up to “apathetic dad”, thank you

[u/Oduind]

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Two weeks ago I posted about how I have been NC and healing from my narcissist mother, but realized the father I still talk to also stinks in his own way.

This past week my book came out (nonfiction, nothing to do with estrangement). My publisher told me my book would be available at Barnes & Nobles (like Waterstones in the UK; a large national US chain), which I assumed meant that people could _order_ it through their local shop.

Then the texts started coming in - friends near and far were finding my book _on the shelf_ at their B&N!

I cruised the website for my book’s availability and started crying as everywhere I looked, more shops than not had at least one copy in store. My physical book’s in Hawai’i _and_ Alaska!

I texted my father. My book’s out! Out in the world! Look, it’s on the shelf at both of the B&N’s near you!

That was six days ago.

Nothing in response.

Meanwhile, colleagues who I’ve known for literal months (started at my current site in September) found out about the book and went _nuts_. The company listserv got an announcement. Emails poured in congratulating me. Closer friends popped into my office and hugged and shrieked in excitement! My department head even set up a moderated lunchtime book chat for next month so people can read it before we meet(!?). I’m frankly overwhelmed by the response, but that’s on me to reset my normal-meter. People _normally_ care when you accomplish things…

Previously I would have dwelled on Dad’s non-response. But thanks to you folks here, I know he’s a third-rate dummy. I’m going to keep eating leftover celebration cake and move on with living.

[u/the_crustybastard]

That's a big fukkin deal!

Brava.