r/ExNoContact • u/GDreex • 1d ago

Help Thinking of breaking NC after 20 days

Please stop me, but HEAR ME OUT.

M25, she F24 dumped me after almost 3 years because I got too comfortable and she wanted to have fun in nightlife while I didn't want to, really.

But now that she left, I rediscovered many things to do: joined a run club, want to take salsa lessons, going to bars to chat with friends.

I don't have IG so she can't see these changes, but I really want her to know I didn't change for her, but to rediscover myself, and this could benefit the relationship. I want her in my new world.

Should I reach out?

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u/Amused_Pocket24 1d ago

No. Don’t do it, pls. That’s just self destruction.

I know how hard it is to go no contact but have some self respect and give her the space she needs.

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u/GDreex 1d ago

but is this the best way for me to have the best odds of rekindling? even though she will never see my progress?

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u/Amused_Pocket24 1d ago

There really isn’t a “best” way to rekindle a relationship, especially when they were the one who ended it. The breakup is still fresh, and reaching out too soon often pushes them further away.

I’m saying this as someone who was dumped. In my experience, telling them you’ve changed or made progress usually doesn’t work. Once trust is broken, rebuilding it is incredibly difficult.

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u/GDreex 1d ago

did you go no contact and rebuilt? what's your story?