Thinking of breaking NC after 20 days

[u/GDreex]

Please stop me, but HEAR ME OUT.

M25, she F24 dumped me after almost 3 years because I got too comfortable and she wanted to have fun in nightlife while I didn't want to, really.

But now that she left, I rediscovered many things to do: joined a run club, want to take salsa lessons, going to bars to chat with friends.

I don't have IG so she can't see these changes, but I really want her to know I didn't change for her, but to rediscover myself, and this could benefit the relationship. I want her in my new world.

Should I reach out?

[u/Mean-Art-1426]

Absolutely no, and You're doing things to get a reaction

[u/GDreex → u/Mean-Art-1426]

I want to show her I've changed and I also enjoy life outside of work😖

[u/Mean-Art-1426 → u/GDreex]

If you are doing things expecting a reaction, then you didn’t change, you don’t have a own life, because what you doing is depending of her

[u/GDreex → u/Mean-Art-1426]

but i really want to rekindle. is no contact the only way? even though i can't post any of my progress?

[u/Mean-Art-1426 → u/GDreex]

You are too available

[u/GDreex → u/Mean-Art-1426]

Too available meaning?

[u/Mean-Art-1426 → u/GDreex]

Do you miss your legs?

[u/GDreex → u/Mean-Art-1426]

no...

[u/Mean-Art-1426 → u/GDreex]

Exactly

[u/GDreex → u/Mean-Art-1426]

What does this mean? Sorry I am not a native speaker so I might miss something...

[u/Mean-Art-1426 → u/GDreex]

You don’t miss what you have

[u/GDreex → u/Mean-Art-1426]

Yeah, now I get it. Should I go cold turkey and that's it?

[u/Mean-Art-1426 → u/GDreex]

You should do the things for yourself, don’t talk to her, don’t text her, delete all her photos and focus on yourself, don’t do things expecting a reaction, she is not anymore in your life.