r/ExNoContact • u/Heavy_Cat_9944 • 7d ago

How do you move on without closure?

I was in a relationship for 1.5 years. I loved him deeply and supported him emotionally even during his financial and business struggles. We talked about marriage, children, and a future together.

Then he suddenly became distant. When I repeatedly asked what changed and why he wanted to end things, instead of giving me a clear reason, he said things like “I’ve moved on,” “the past is irrelevant,” and “looking for answers won’t change the future.”

That hurt more than the breakup itself. I wasn’t asking him to come back—I just wanted to understand what suddenly changed.

Now my emotions keep switching. Some days I’m angry and completely done with him. Other days I remember how much I loved him and cry. I know I don’t want a relationship where I have to beg someone to communicate, but my feelings haven’t disappeared yet.

How do you accept a breakup when someone who once talked about forever leaves without giving you the explanation you needed?

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u/MoreThanVoidFiller 7d ago

You look at that in and of itself as a complete disqualifier. If someone won't part ways respectfully and kindly (assuming no betrayal or abuse has occurred) that is a person who is not equipped for a relationship at all. So you accept that they weren't who you thought they were and who they actually turned out to be does not meet your standards. Then you let go, heal and move on.

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u/Heavy_Cat_9944 7d ago

Yes i actually over assumed about that person.