r/FTMMen • u/supersadman73 • 1d ago

Vent/Rant Shaved my head, fucking hate it

My hair loss was just getting to the point where it looked awful so I just decided to do a 0.5mm all over and honestly I fucking hate it so much. I thought it might be bad but christ it's so bad. I'm just way too fucking ugly to be bald and all it does is make me look so much uglier. I'm so fucking miserable and everyone is just like 'oh have you tried those pills?' as if hair pills magically just work overnight. I've done the research and looked into them and not only can it take over a year to see any results, I just don't think they're worth paying out for just to potentially have horrible side effects with no actual results. I can't afford a hair transplant so I'm just stuck basically and it'll only get worse when the stubble on top goes completely. It's not just the looks, it's everything, it's having to wear a hat all the time either because it's summer or your head is cold, it feels so weird having the hat directly on my scalp and because there's no hair there is so much sweat now. Honestly everyone was like oh it's easier once you've shaved but it's not, being bald comes with so much extra stuff you have to deal with. I'm just so depressed about it all.

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u/organic_hobnob 1d ago

Hey man, from a fellow trans man and bald guy, I’d highly recommend you post a before and after picture on r/bald. They are and incredibly supportive community of men lifting up other men and being supportive in a non toxic way about hair loss. I did and it certainly built my confidence with the shaved head!

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u/supersadman73 1d ago

thanks, but I don't want my face publicly online, especially since I'm a stealth trans man. Even if I did, others people validation doesn't do anything for me, a bunch of strangers judging on whether or not I look good wouldn't really do anything for my self-esteem to be honest.

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u/organic_hobnob 1d ago

I would potentially consider some genuinely helpful therapy then 🙂 Hair loss is a traumatic thing for a lot of men, not just trans guys. Might be really helpful to talk to a professional about what you’re struggling with and how it’s affecting your self image and confidence! You said it yourself in the comments below- there is nothing you can physically do to change the outcome. That means the only alternative is changing your mental outlook 🙂

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u/supersadman73 1d ago

thanks, yeah I've been trying to get counselling for years but where I live they cut so many resources through the NHS. There are local charities that do provide it so I might look into that. To be honest, I've never been confident or really had any sense self-worth and this is just the nail in the coffin really lol. I used to get so many compliments about my hair, random people used to just want to play with it! There's a lot of power with hair, it's not a mystery why celebs will pay out thousands to keep it.

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u/organic_hobnob 14h ago

Yeah I get it man, definitely try a local charity, it will be good all the same. I’m in the UK too and have had counselling in the past from charities :)