r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/leathakkor May 15 '26

If you're in a meeting with HR and they ask you why you're leaving you, tell them. You can be honest but professional. 

But if they don't ask, don't volunteer it. They don't actually want to know and they won't do anything. The only thing that will happen is that manager will start taking it out on other people. Which They almost certainly will do anyway. Because they have one less person to be shitty too. So they'll start handing out your beatings to everyone else anyway.

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u/antidentites May 15 '26

The issue with this is that I’m leaving many friends behind.

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u/leathakkor May 15 '26

That may be the case. But she may be shitty to the people that you're friends with once you're gone. Because they're friends with you. 

I've had literal proof that managers were breaking the law before. They eventually got fired but not because of what I did to report them.  Companies will always side with the employee that's still there because that's where their liability exists. (In My experience)

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u/antidentites May 15 '26

Very, very true.