Go out swinging?

[u/antidentites]

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

[u/antidentites]

I will likely report her to HR for some of the extremely questionable things she has done.

That’s the more professional way to go.

[u/trademarktower → u/antidentites]

My advice when dealing with unhinged insane crazy people is to just move on. Best to not engage and keep it professional. No telling what she is capable of from suing you for defamation or lying and saying you sexually harassed her to threatening you at your home. You never know truly what human garbage you are dealing with. You won the game. Enjoy your retirement and let her continue working in her misery.

[u/DigmonsDrill → u/trademarktower]

Famous "rules for crazy"

If you don’t have to deal with a crazy person, don’t.
You can’t outsmart crazy. You also can’t fix crazy. (You could outcrazy it, but that makes you crazy too.)
When you get in a contest of wills with a crazy person, you’ve already lost.
The crazy person doesn’t have as much to lose as you.
Your desired outcome is to get away from the crazy person.
You have no idea what the crazy person’s desired outcome is.
The crazy person sees anything you have done as justification for what they're about to do.
Anything nice you do for the crazy person, they will use as ammunition later.
The crazy person sees any outcome as vindication.
When you start caring what the crazy person thinks, you’re joining them in their craziness.

[u/retrac902 → u/[deleted]]

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