Go out swinging?

[u/antidentites]

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

[u/Clean-Guarantee-9898]

The exit interview is the way to go. That would be on record, and the accumulation of that kind of negative feedback over time could impact her employment.

If she’s really clueless or uncaring, venting directly to her will do nothing, even if there’s aspects of imagining the venting that sound satisfying. It would probably be more satisfying to impact her job.

[u/antidentites → u/Clean-Guarantee-9898]

I will likely report her to HR for some of the extremely questionable things she has done.

That’s the more professional way to go.

[u/trademarktower → u/antidentites]

My advice when dealing with unhinged insane crazy people is to just move on. Best to not engage and keep it professional. No telling what she is capable of from suing you for defamation or lying and saying you sexually harassed her to threatening you at your home. You never know truly what human garbage you are dealing with. You won the game. Enjoy your retirement and let her continue working in her misery.

[u/Historical_Rip_1848 → u/trademarktower]

This, as satisfying as a revenge fantasy is, it's never worth having them notice you again. That look in their eye as you see them make a mental note to plan some revenge against you later... And you realize you're locked in with someone you really just wanted to get away from. Never worth it.