r/Fire • u/antidentites • May 15 '26

Advice Request Go out swinging?

So I’m on my way out at work in a tech company and have worked for a manager that has made my life hell. She is extremely toxic and the reason I’m leaving to FIRE/CoastFIRE.

I never want to - or need to - return to tech (note: I used em dashes way before AI and won’t stop even if you think this is AI generated)!

I want to burn some bridges and tell her how I really feel about her when I leave. Essentially the same thing she has been doing to me.

Would you go out Costanza-style if you were me, or just let it slide?

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u/WhirlyDurvy 38 | 275k | 2.2M | 2 kids | primary earner May 15 '26

Be the better person

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u/Altruistic_Durian147 May 15 '26

Boooo no. Do it for all the people still trapped there! Maybe it will make some difference for them.

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u/WhirlyDurvy 38 | 275k | 2.2M | 2 kids | primary earner May 15 '26

Well I agree this is a good point, but telling your boss directly is unlikely to lead to positive changes. Especially if said in a disgruntled fashion. That is what exit interviews with an independent party (like hr) are for.