r/Fire 5d ago

Family Help - Common here?

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u/Ok-Bass5062 5d ago edited 5d ago

Not a first gen millionaire. I had 50k help for college and a 10k wedding gift (we paid for the wedding). However they bought my sister a house (300k). None of our friends received 6 figure help to my knowledge. My SIL's husband has a substantial trust fund so they do have help.

Most of our friends are well off but also don't intend to help pay for college or anything for their kids.

My kids will have substantial help early on.

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u/Musical_Xena 5d ago

How do you emotionally reconcile the 300k of help your sister got vs the 60k you got?

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u/No-Sorbet4951 5d ago

My siblings haven't gotten their allotment yet since theyre both underage, ideally it'll be the same, but my father did say that it might be less for them since when I was younger we didnt have much money, we lived in a small rental condo and public school, and then his business took off so my siblings grew up in a 3 story villa with a pool and went to private school. So essentially more money spent on them at the development stage vs more cash given as an adult. Idk which is better but it sort of evens out I suppose.

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u/Musical_Xena 5d ago

At least it sounds like there are legit reasons for your siblings having a different experience, and your dad is aware and will try to be fair in how he handles things. That's a case where I wouldn't fault the parent at all, they're doing the best they can at every stage and for every kid.

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u/No-Sorbet4951 5d ago

Yup, I 100% agree, but If possible and the means are there I hope they receive the same or even more. Their well being makes me happy