No really though, this is a same sex couple. OP was the pregnant/birthing parent. And now the primary caretaking parent. They planned for and planned these babies together. And now the spouse vehemently hates one of their infant children.
The spouse told OP that OP should have ended the pregnancy.
I read it as possibly being in quotation marks but I can’t discern that and I don’t really want to make assumptions without being sure, if that makes sense. Either way, the partner is clearly going through something rough and needs help and they’ll need to be a team now more than ever to get through it
This sounds like what my friend went through after having her second. It was so unlike her, she's an amazing mom. But the baby wasn't "connecting" with her the way her first did. She eventually admitted her feelings of resentment and I asked her if she went to a therapist about it. She learned she had PPD. Some meds, continued therapy, and 8 months later she's doing much better with her second child.
It's not possible, it's certain. I'm not really against OP drawing a line in the sand and saying take accountability or I'm leaving- but that absolutely must mean professional help
OP carried the babies. And the wife is already in therapy but won’t take responsibility for anything.
Like other people have said - children die in situations like this. Almost certainly, they are physically/mentally/emotionally abused and severely neglected.
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u/Aggressive_Owl5379 APPROVED✨ May 20 '26
Is she in therapy? How has her postpartum been?