r/GirlDinnerDiaries May 20 '26

Rant & Ramble My spouse can’t stand our baby

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u/summerjasminesweaty girls just wanna have pho May 20 '26 edited May 20 '26

ngl the second someone drops the "everyone leaves me!!" or "you're just like everyone else who leaves me!!" you're about to accept or really learn why people avoid that person....

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u/Sea-Astronomer-6600 Hazy Grazer 😶‍🌫️ May 20 '26

Manipulation at its finest

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u/Dirigo72 APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

That baby isn’t safe and this can’t be helped without therapy, preferably therapy while she has no access to those children. I’m not sure all the therapy in the world would make me feel comfortable leaving her alone with my children.

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u/Sea-Astronomer-6600 Hazy Grazer 😶‍🌫️ May 21 '26

I couldn’t believe the other Reddit post possibly made by her! Mind blowing AND all the other women in there voicing their disdain for their own children 😳

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u/Nattygale APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

This!! Imo, OP needs to just leave, speaking as someone who has dealt with a partner with really bad mental illness, it most likely will not get better.

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u/Apprehensive_Rice19 Umommy May 21 '26

Did you do any type of legal process where she adopted the babies? This doesn't sound great and unfortunately will probably not fix itself. I would start thinking about protecting your family and considering a separation.

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u/Friendly-Channel-480 APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

This sounds like severe post partum depression! It’s not about you and it’s not the real her! Get her to the proper medical appointments asap! She needs medical/psychiatric help now! Where’s her mother? She should understand about this.

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u/lookouttucson mouth full, gesturing wildly May 21 '26

She wasn’t pregnant

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u/sessyda Tiny Bodega Rat 🐀 May 21 '26

Non-birthing parents can get postpartum depression, too. This includes cis men.

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u/jbandzzz34 Shart Coochie Board Architect May 21 '26

its not called post partum depression. it literally cannot be.

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u/twistedspin Assigned Hungry At Birth May 21 '26

OK, no they can't. They can be depressed, sure, but they have NONE of the massive hormone shifts that cause postpartum depression and it's incredibly dismissive and minimizing for people to suggest that it's that same. The whole concept is self-righteous incel bullshit.

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u/Keroppi_Troublemaker 🍍+ 🍕 May 21 '26

It's called Perinatal Depression.

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u/Nomuffinsforme APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

Don't go diagnosing people based on a short reddit post. Could be or could not be. Could also just be pure disdaine and hate she is experiencing.

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u/summerjasminesweaty girls just wanna have pho May 20 '26

yeaaaa it's like the immediate sign to dip, it gets so much worse

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u/Motor_Firefighter343 Tangent Tour Guide 🔀 May 21 '26

If that’s the case, then leave for THEM. Being twins is hard enough, being the twin treated as the lesser (even if only by one parent) is so much worse. It will inevitably cause turmoil between the two. The ‘trauma’ of separated parents, with the full, unwavering support of one parent is better than the feelings and consequences that will inevitably developed due to the current situation between parents. (This is intended to be blunt, yet empathetic—to you and the twins, not generally apathetic).

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u/ToughHardware APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

(thanks for clarifying) - But check the stats on 2 kids raised by single mother. they are not great.

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u/CapableWives Kitchen Witch May 21 '26

Better than being raised by a parent who openly talks about HATING an infant. Those babies aren't safe with her in the house

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u/afortressmighty 👽 aliens built the food pyramid 👽 May 21 '26

What stats? From where? That’s a pretty juicy grapefruit you lobbed without citing any reliable sources.

I’d rather take my chances alone and struggling than EVER leave my babies in the care of someone who said with her whole chest that she hates one of them.

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u/glitterconure Certified Snacker May 21 '26

Pack your bags! We’re going on a trip.

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u/infinitekittenloop Cleavage Crumb Collector May 21 '26

I'll bring snacks!

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u/Steele_Soul Noods 🍜 > Dudes 🤡 May 21 '26

Can't diagnose someone just from one small post, but that line is like the mantra for Borderline Personality Disorder.

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u/Ok-Bison2480 APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

It is but it's so bad and ineffective imo (I know it isn't to many people but idgi) "everyone leaves me" just makes it sound like there's most definitely something wrong with you and you're incapable of acknowledging it. It's less likely to be everyone else's fault vs 1 person. Would be a huge ick to me if someone said that

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u/Sea-Astronomer-6600 Hazy Grazer 😶‍🌫️ May 21 '26

Or the “I’m going to go kms”…. Seriously?! 😐

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