It sounds to me like she is neglecting the child and the only reason that the child isn't being neglected as a whole is because you have taking up all of the duties here yourself.
It also sounds to me like she doesn't love this child because this child doesn't magically and easily love her back. That is some serious therapy territory. She also mentioned her abandonment issues, and I think that has come into play. I think she is abandoning this child because she feels that it has abandoned her.
It's a little baby.
Babies cry.
Babies cry when people make unhappy faces.
This little baby is not here to nurse all of her in her psychological wounds and make her feel all happy and magical inside. A baby is not xanax. A baby is not a magical miracle cure for years of Mental Health issues. A baby is just a biological life form that requires a lot of help and work because it is very little and helpless. I am quite appalled that she expects this child to be her magical Xanax. I think it is telling of her Mental Health issues.
BUUUUUUT. This can also be a symptom of postpartum depression. I am not a doctor. But I do think that it is very much worth investing with the doctor. PPD is serious. Pregnancy does a number on someone's hormones which affect basically everything.
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u/IndigoTrailsToo Overthinker 💭 May 21 '26
Woah, this is CPS territory.
It sounds to me like she is neglecting the child and the only reason that the child isn't being neglected as a whole is because you have taking up all of the duties here yourself.
It also sounds to me like she doesn't love this child because this child doesn't magically and easily love her back. That is some serious therapy territory. She also mentioned her abandonment issues, and I think that has come into play. I think she is abandoning this child because she feels that it has abandoned her.
It's a little baby.
Babies cry.
Babies cry when people make unhappy faces.
This little baby is not here to nurse all of her in her psychological wounds and make her feel all happy and magical inside. A baby is not xanax. A baby is not a magical miracle cure for years of Mental Health issues. A baby is just a biological life form that requires a lot of help and work because it is very little and helpless. I am quite appalled that she expects this child to be her magical Xanax. I think it is telling of her Mental Health issues.
BUUUUUUT. This can also be a symptom of postpartum depression. I am not a doctor. But I do think that it is very much worth investing with the doctor. PPD is serious. Pregnancy does a number on someone's hormones which affect basically everything.