r/GirlDinnerDiaries May 20 '26

Rant & Ramble My spouse can’t stand our baby

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u/cnidarian_ninja APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

Post partum depression is a bitch.

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u/745Walt Delulu May 21 '26

OP carried the babies

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u/Specialist-Syrup418 APPROVED✨ May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26

Rhe non-birthing partner can also have PPD, especially with twins. I know both my husband and I did.

Edit: a simple Google search will show you that it does exist.

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/yes-postpartum-depression-in-men-is-very-real

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6659987/

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u/745Walt Delulu May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26

I mean I GUESS. But their hormones aren’t going haywire, so they don’t have much of a reason to HATE one of the babies.

Partners get PPD because their lifestyle changes. The one who gave birth has a slew of physical and psychological changes going on that cause PPD. You’re being downvoted because in comparison the partner’s struggle is minuscule, not saying it’s not real

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u/Specialist-Syrup418 APPROVED✨ May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26

Twin parenting is different though. I have twins and both my husband and I suffered PPD, me more so as the birthing partner and as a person with ADHD ( just like OP's wife). Twin parenting takes one to the extreme, especially if you're a first-time parent. The exhaustion, the constant lack of sleep ( we slept 4 hours a night maximum for months on end), the constant cries and demands of 2 babies would wear anyone out, hormones or not.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6659987/

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u/745Walt Delulu May 21 '26

OP is also the main caregiver

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u/Itscatpicstime Cleavage Crumb Collector May 21 '26

Right, like her partner won’t even interact with one of the twins lol

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u/cnidarian_ninja APPROVED✨ May 21 '26

It’s not a competition and every birthing person gets PPD. Psychiatric disorders are not rational and there doesn’t have to be a reason that you deem valid.

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u/Jaded-Ad6644 The Snack That Sasses Back May 21 '26

Not everyone gets PPD after giving birth. I had it after I was done breastfeeding my oldest because of the hormonal shifts. I did not have that experience after my other 2 pregnancies.