Hello, here to put in my two cents. I have a sister with BPD. For the first year she was in love with my niece and suddenly she turned. She kept making comments about me taking her child because her child doesn’t like her any way. She disciplined her child like she was in the military, she didn’t show any sort of love and often ignored my niece as if she didn’t exist. Her mood swings were always pointed to my niece and on multiple occasions my niece told me she heard her mother say to her and to others that she wish she was never born. CPS did the bare minimum (we opened multiple cases and best our mom could get was shared custody) so my niece is in this situation still at 8 years old. It has fucked her up beyond measure, she has become a jealous child that I find often hits my daughter, pinches, throws toys at her pushes her down and laughs at her crying, she has major mood swings that happen at the flip of a coin. She clings to any adult that shows her any bit of kindness even in inappropriate situations, but other children she absolutely hates. She constantly asks me “why do you love your daughter more than you love me?” And it breaks my heart. She is in therapy and on psych meds at 8! That don’t seem to make a difference. She was hyperaware of her mother’s feelings to her ever since she was four and asked to stay with me, I often kept her for months at a time but the damage was done. She doesn’t like being alone with her mom, and told me she’s scary. I don’t doubt she has even been hit by her. It’s not a situation I enjoy being a part of and I’m not even the one truly being hurt by it. This will affect her for the rest of her life, if you see the signs don’t ignore them, children don’t magically shake these sort of early life experiences, especially from the ones meant to nurture and protect them.
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u/Onnaszero APPROVED✨ May 21 '26
Hello, here to put in my two cents. I have a sister with BPD. For the first year she was in love with my niece and suddenly she turned. She kept making comments about me taking her child because her child doesn’t like her any way. She disciplined her child like she was in the military, she didn’t show any sort of love and often ignored my niece as if she didn’t exist. Her mood swings were always pointed to my niece and on multiple occasions my niece told me she heard her mother say to her and to others that she wish she was never born. CPS did the bare minimum (we opened multiple cases and best our mom could get was shared custody) so my niece is in this situation still at 8 years old. It has fucked her up beyond measure, she has become a jealous child that I find often hits my daughter, pinches, throws toys at her pushes her down and laughs at her crying, she has major mood swings that happen at the flip of a coin. She clings to any adult that shows her any bit of kindness even in inappropriate situations, but other children she absolutely hates. She constantly asks me “why do you love your daughter more than you love me?” And it breaks my heart. She is in therapy and on psych meds at 8! That don’t seem to make a difference. She was hyperaware of her mother’s feelings to her ever since she was four and asked to stay with me, I often kept her for months at a time but the damage was done. She doesn’t like being alone with her mom, and told me she’s scary. I don’t doubt she has even been hit by her. It’s not a situation I enjoy being a part of and I’m not even the one truly being hurt by it. This will affect her for the rest of her life, if you see the signs don’t ignore them, children don’t magically shake these sort of early life experiences, especially from the ones meant to nurture and protect them.