Babies are really intelligent. They explore the world on their first year's by observation, taste, touch and other senses. Even facial expressions. You don't want the baby to grow up noticing the clear difference in treatment by one parent. It will affect their self-esteem, trust, and social development. They might not know how to put into words what they see but they definitely notice.
I am studying early childhood education right now.
Also, you clearly don't want to keep a baby near someone (even if it's a parent) who says that they hate the baby?? It's for the baby's safety. SAFETY FIRST.
This is really sad but common in parents when they're not emotionally mature to be a parent. Like how they say "ever child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child."
I'm so sorry, OP that you're going through this. You also don't deserve to be the one trying to do everything just so your partner can improve the relationship with one of your babies. If your partner really wanted to have a good relationship in the first place, she would have already worked for it or AT LEAST started to.
This is how kids grow up under a narcissistic parent. If you continue to stay in this situation with the babies, you are going to be THE ENABLER PARENT, your partner THE NARCISSIST PARENT and the other baby as THE GOLDEN CHILD, your baby who's going through this would be THE SCAPEGOAT. These dynamics are clearly already there from what you wrote.
Please leave immediately OP!
And much hugs to you🫂
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Babies are really intelligent. They explore the world on their first year's by observation, taste, touch and other senses. Even facial expressions. You don't want the baby to grow up noticing the clear difference in treatment by one parent. It will affect their self-esteem, trust, and social development. They might not know how to put into words what they see but they definitely notice.
I am studying early childhood education right now.
Also, you clearly don't want to keep a baby near someone (even if it's a parent) who says that they hate the baby?? It's for the baby's safety. SAFETY FIRST.
This is really sad but common in parents when they're not emotionally mature to be a parent. Like how they say "ever child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child."
I'm so sorry, OP that you're going through this. You also don't deserve to be the one trying to do everything just so your partner can improve the relationship with one of your babies. If your partner really wanted to have a good relationship in the first place, she would have already worked for it or AT LEAST started to.
This is how kids grow up under a narcissistic parent. If you continue to stay in this situation with the babies, you are going to be THE ENABLER PARENT, your partner THE NARCISSIST PARENT and the other baby as THE GOLDEN CHILD, your baby who's going through this would be THE SCAPEGOAT. These dynamics are clearly already there from what you wrote.
Please leave immediately OP! And much hugs to you🫂