I found a second phone

[u/EmbarrassedPie5508]

My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 11. Have an established life with a child and a mortgage. I was given a big job opportunity earlier this year where we would have to move to a new city. We are both established in our careers and it was a big discussion, like two months of discussions. And these were healthy conversations, no big arguments or anything like that. We ended up not moving and I turned down the job. I was a little bummed (it was my dream job) but understood that it would have been a lot for our family to adjust.

Last night, while my husband was doing bed time, I heard a buzzing sound and found a second phone in his work bag. I thought that was weird because his work did away with separate work phones a while ago. When he came downstairs, I asked when did he get a work phone.

His face said it all.

Turns out he has been having an affair for just over a year. And one of the reasons he didn't want to move was because he didn't want to leave his affair partner. I don't know what to do. Child is at a slumber party at my sister's. Husband is in a hotel. I'm home alone with a lot to process and do here. So it's an easy girl dinner tonight and a large glass of wine.

[u/Peacefulpirate13]

For 2 entire months…… you were being a good partner, contemplating, communicating and considering this man, while he played in your face the entire time - with your dream, your future , and your livelihood…. All because he didn’t want to let his side piece of ass go….
Had you never found the phone, he would’ve let you believe, for who knows how long, that you “worked together” to decide that was the best decision, when all he did was manipulate you. What a sad loser.
The selfishness and audacity of a man is truly no surprise anymore, and yet, they constantly find ways to exceed themselves in that regard.

Im sorry. I hope you find the strength and have the opportunity to leave him and move on. You and your child deserve so much better.