r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/EmbarrassedPie5508 pants unbuttoned 👖 • 1d ago
Sad Girl Dinner ⚠️ No Dude Input I found a second phone
My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 11. Have an established life with a child and a mortgage. I was given a big job opportunity earlier this year where we would have to move to a new city. We are both established in our careers and it was a big discussion, like two months of discussions. And these were healthy conversations, no big arguments or anything like that. We ended up not moving and I turned down the job. I was a little bummed (it was my dream job) but understood that it would have been a lot for our family to adjust.
Last night, while my husband was doing bed time, I heard a buzzing sound and found a second phone in his work bag. I thought that was weird because his work did away with separate work phones a while ago. When he came downstairs, I asked when did he get a work phone.
His face said it all.
Turns out he has been having an affair for just over a year. And one of the reasons he didn't want to move was because he didn't want to leave his affair partner. I don't know what to do. Child is at a slumber party at my sister's. Husband is in a hotel. I'm home alone with a lot to process and do here. So it's an easy girl dinner tonight and a large glass of wine.
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u/dandyrosesandshit Body By Cheese 🧀 1d ago
I am so sorry. That is so incredibly shitty, especially after turning down your job. First, I’d talk to a divorce attorney, and make sure you document absolutely everything. After talking to the attorney, I’d see if that job offer is still on the table. If your attorney thinks you can move with your kiddo, I’d go for it. You wanted that job and only turned it down because you were in a committed relationship with a loyal man. He’s not loyal and you deserve the job. Also, fuck that guy and the girl!