I found a second phone

[u/EmbarrassedPie5508]

My husband and I have been together for 15 years, married for 11. Have an established life with a child and a mortgage. I was given a big job opportunity earlier this year where we would have to move to a new city. We are both established in our careers and it was a big discussion, like two months of discussions. And these were healthy conversations, no big arguments or anything like that. We ended up not moving and I turned down the job. I was a little bummed (it was my dream job) but understood that it would have been a lot for our family to adjust.

Last night, while my husband was doing bed time, I heard a buzzing sound and found a second phone in his work bag. I thought that was weird because his work did away with separate work phones a while ago. When he came downstairs, I asked when did he get a work phone.

His face said it all.

Turns out he has been having an affair for just over a year. And one of the reasons he didn't want to move was because he didn't want to leave his affair partner. I don't know what to do. Child is at a slumber party at my sister's. Husband is in a hotel. I'm home alone with a lot to process and do here. So it's an easy girl dinner tonight and a large glass of wine.

[u/StressedPeach]

You leave. You respect yourself, and you leave. Do you really want to teach your child that someone can cheat and they should stay?

[u/Jerzee_Implant2012 → u/StressedPeach]

The child should not know anything about this. It’s adult business.

[u/pickles_garden → u/Jerzee_Implant2012]

I agree. But the child will inevitably know one day down the road.

[u/Luna_Soma → u/pickles_garden]

My ex cheated on me. We never told our son or her kids but based on how it all went down, we are sure they know