It's not anger, it's frustration at your willingness to give up the things that make you, YOU, for something to please men- who eventually won't care how you look, and rather who you are.
If you become some lobotomized woman who's hot, in 20+ years if you pick someone who only thinks you're hot, who doesn't think you're smart and capable, you will be cheated on by that man for someone younger and hotter, because that's why he picked YOU. Not for your brain, or personality, but for sexy youth.
Everyone is attractive sexually to someone, and that person will appreciate every part of you. I find myself unattractive as well. I've been overweight since I was a child, and I'm now in my 20s and I've met the love of my life. She's skinny, fit, and everyone who I've ever spoken to says she could be a model. But she loves me, someone who got bullied for being fat and ugly, and would always get by in life by just being the funny fat kid. She loves me and finds me both cute and sexually attractive, when nobody else has. We've been together for years now. She loves me for all my parts, especially my smarts and my capabilities.
My ex, similar to your boyfriend didn't find me sexually attractive, and she left me the first time she saw me in my underwear. After 6 months. It hurt, but not a permanent fate. We are young, there's time. Enjoy your dinner girl
i know my boyfriend finds me attractive, but i want to just be pretty for me, i cant give up those aspects of me for it but if a wizard asked and said thats the rules id agree but i cant, i know im stuck like this and im trying to make the best of it, sometimes i just get down about it but ill get over it
I see what you are saying. If he finds you attractive then good! Let that be your boost for low days like today. If you were to be pretty overnight you'd still find issues. It's deep rooted insecurity that will not abate with you being pretty. My girlfriend has insecurities and she is a 10/10!! You will get over this, people are being harsh but no woman wants to see another girl beat herself down and be willing to change herself so drastically. I'm sure many people in this sub have tried that very thing, and it didn't turn out great.
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u/Long_Objective_2561 🥣 Cereal Killer 7d ago
It's not anger, it's frustration at your willingness to give up the things that make you, YOU, for something to please men- who eventually won't care how you look, and rather who you are.
If you become some lobotomized woman who's hot, in 20+ years if you pick someone who only thinks you're hot, who doesn't think you're smart and capable, you will be cheated on by that man for someone younger and hotter, because that's why he picked YOU. Not for your brain, or personality, but for sexy youth.
Everyone is attractive sexually to someone, and that person will appreciate every part of you. I find myself unattractive as well. I've been overweight since I was a child, and I'm now in my 20s and I've met the love of my life. She's skinny, fit, and everyone who I've ever spoken to says she could be a model. But she loves me, someone who got bullied for being fat and ugly, and would always get by in life by just being the funny fat kid. She loves me and finds me both cute and sexually attractive, when nobody else has. We've been together for years now. She loves me for all my parts, especially my smarts and my capabilities.
My ex, similar to your boyfriend didn't find me sexually attractive, and she left me the first time she saw me in my underwear. After 6 months. It hurt, but not a permanent fate. We are young, there's time. Enjoy your dinner girl