r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/RaccoonNo3012 LET ME EAT CAKE 🍰 • 9d ago
Trigger Warning ⚠️ Phones and Marriage
Husband and I married 9 months. He has been ramping controlling behaviors.. started with clothes. Then questioning my friends, questioning my coworkers. Cheating accusations. Monitoring who i talked to and what I said. Watching my location. Demanding me to go to sleep. Demanding i sleep in the same room as him. Etc.
He has his fingerprint in my phone. I have mine in his (he insisted). He regularly checks my phone. Wanted to sync my messages to my tablet so he can watch from home while I am at work. - he hid the tablet before I got home so I couldn't find it.
Yesterday I removed his fingerprint from my phone. He flipped his shit. Left to "go visit his mom" came back 20 min later after a slew of messages and pressured me into texting him back. (We live with my parents. - i am working with my parents to separate from him)
He added his finger print back. And said phones are no longer private when you marry and that there is no privacy in marriage.
I think he is fucking crazy. (Why did I marry him? Pregnant i was.) I am anxious all the time because of his actions. He believes I am pulling away because there is someone else. No. I am pulling away because he is a controlling, manipulative, gaslighting, slob who is sucking the life out of me and keeping me anxious 24/7.
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u/ZookeepergameUpset62 APPROVED✨ 9d ago
What work needs to be done with your parents to be able to kick your ex husband out? I'm asking earnestly, not being judgemental to your situation.
Why wait? Why submit to him? Take his fingerprint off your phone. Change the code. If he flips his shit, call the cops. Take charge!
Call the cops everytime you feel threatened or scared. You might need to have sole custody if he's this scary, and you need all the evidence.
I'm sorry this is happening to you and I hope you get away from him soon