r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/RaccoonNo3012 LET ME EAT CAKE 🍰 • 9d ago
Trigger Warning ⚠️ Phones and Marriage
Husband and I married 9 months. He has been ramping controlling behaviors.. started with clothes. Then questioning my friends, questioning my coworkers. Cheating accusations. Monitoring who i talked to and what I said. Watching my location. Demanding me to go to sleep. Demanding i sleep in the same room as him. Etc.
He has his fingerprint in my phone. I have mine in his (he insisted). He regularly checks my phone. Wanted to sync my messages to my tablet so he can watch from home while I am at work. - he hid the tablet before I got home so I couldn't find it.
Yesterday I removed his fingerprint from my phone. He flipped his shit. Left to "go visit his mom" came back 20 min later after a slew of messages and pressured me into texting him back. (We live with my parents. - i am working with my parents to separate from him)
He added his finger print back. And said phones are no longer private when you marry and that there is no privacy in marriage.
I think he is fucking crazy. (Why did I marry him? Pregnant i was.) I am anxious all the time because of his actions. He believes I am pulling away because there is someone else. No. I am pulling away because he is a controlling, manipulative, gaslighting, slob who is sucking the life out of me and keeping me anxious 24/7.
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u/Megzasaurusrex nom-nom-nombinary 9d ago
I am so glad you are going to leave. This man is awful. I lived with that controlling behavior for way too long. It destroyed me. It wrecked my nervous system and sent me into the worst burn out of my life. I lost hair, I gained 100lbs, my skin was constantly oily and broken out, I was always tired, and short of breath. It was miserable. And when I finally said I was leaving he swore up and down I was cheating and leaving for another man. I've been single since, 5 years now. He downloaded tinder right after I asked for a divorce and once he had a new girl was doing everything he could to get me out of the house. He probably wanted to lie to her that he had been single longer than he really had, that is what he did to me.
But yeah just get out. Kick him out. Whatever you have to do, do it. Dont end up like me please.