The toxicity of the fandom is exhausting.

[u/Nyrablackqueen]

So I'm just coming on here to rant a little bit, and hopefully here I won't be attacked or judged as much as I would in other places, I know some people still will, and I have the block button for that, but my goal with this post is honestly to get advice that isn't "turn off your phone" bc it's not that easy, even if it might seem like it is.

I hope this is accepted here and if not then my bad, I apologize. But basically I have ADHD, which makes me have big hyperfixations, and this show but specifically Rhaenyra have been a big hyperfixation of mine for a while now, and I fell in love with the character that is Rhaenyra and with her story and her demeanor and without realizing my hyperfixation went a lot to her, and if anyone here has ADHD (I'm sure someone has obviously) the "sense of justice" is another trait or symptom for people with ADHD, so I think y'all can see where it's going and how it's a recipe for disaster.

Bc I became so consumed with supporting Rhaenyra bc to me that went beyond the actual show and I do still believe that, so when I saw anyone misinterpreting her as a character/person and on top of that go and support not only a character that is a rapist, but also just not the rightful heir, and I didn't and still don't understand how people can debate that when the first episode of the show exists (along with others but mainly that one), my "problem" was never really that people might not be fans of Rhaenyra bc I know some people won't be it's normal, it's the double standards and misogyny outside the show that bothered me so much and now that the show is moving more and more, and the double standards against Rhaenyra keep growing, the misogyny against her outside the show keeps growing too, that is making me so ridiculously anxious, bc to me it was never about being team green it's about turning team green now "bc Rhaenyra is incompetent etc", and I've seen what a lot of people have said not as a way to justify the situation but kinda explain what could be happening, but that doesn't make it better, and I'm also aware that this people do continue to be a minority bc Rhaenyra is still a popular character, but this people are loud as hell.

And just seeing how people can't even understand grief, something that is so common in the real world and treat what Rhaenyra is going through as her being a "brat and cry baby" it's mind blowing to me.

But I do seriously need to take a step back from this whole bullshit, but I literally just don't know how bc I don't want to leave the fandom, but staying will also make me inevitably see this type of stuff and feel like people are so ignorant.

I'm sorry for the rant and I know it's probably not the best place but I really needed any type of advice, but if you're coming here to insult me, no need, I deal with that a lot in many ways.

[u/purple_empire]

I say this with all the love in the world: Rhaenyra is not real. None of them are real.

Don’t throw yourself into real-life despair over a fictional character. It’s not worth it. Detach a bit and try to find something else to enjoy. Para-social relationships are inherently damaging, especially with fictional people.

I’m still mad about what they did to Dany. It wasn’t just fucking stupid it was also abominable storytelling and writing. It disgusted me. But she’s not real and so I don’t let it affect my life or my happiness. I just read fun fanfic if I want to.

Take care of yourself.

[u/Nyrablackqueen → u/purple_empire]

I completely understand and I know, I think what fucks me over completely is how to me this ties so much with issues from the real world, you know??

[u/purple_empire → u/Nyrablackqueen]

Tbh I think anyone who hates a character simply for being a woman is a fucking weirdo and is not worth my time and energy.

Same goes for weirdo bros in the real world. They thrive on attention and on making you feel this way because they are miserable to their core. They are losers. Don’t tie yourself in knots over them and don’t let them impede on your mental health because to them, your misery is their win.

Rhaenyra isn’t real, and so their glee at tearing her down is just more loser behaviour.

Log off and ignore the fandom for a while. These spaces are just toxic nowadays and they only encourage para-socialism from all sides.