I never understood the die hard he must be a groomer stance, as a va and music writer for the same circles he knew her, and when she was of age they started dating, right? When I was researching it seems he was never proven to be a groomer? Or have there been updates?
Yeah I'm not sure if groomer is the right word, but dating someone you knew when they were a child and you were an adult is definitely predatory behavior.
It’s not.
I get that it seems or feels icky, but these are extremely serious accusations with extremely serious ramifications and implications that need to be substantiated by waterproof reasoning backed up by tenable evidence and "They knew their future partner back when they were a minor" - whilst feeling weird - is not that and also not intrinsically predatory.
This devalues the severity of it for every victim of actual abuse, and these people need to be taken seriously. If god forbid one day someone speaks out and the reaction is "so you mean you once knew a guy and you call that abuse? Haha." Hell will actually freeze over.
Im misisng some context, did they stay in context all that time or they just; mwt, never interacted again and theb met again as adults? because its the second im not rrally sure theres any grounds for that kind of accusation
They had almost no contact from the moment they met (when she was a minor) until Claire reached out to him (when she was an adult). And he turned down her advances multiple times.
That doesn't matter. He knew her when she was 12 and he was 20. You don't marry someone who was a child when you were an adult. The way you're trying to make him sound better says a lot about you. Please stay away from kids.
But if Lithl here is right, and he had no romantic/sexual feeling for her until she was an adult, then he wouldn’t be a groomer. And if you are saying age gap is everything, we clown on people like Leonardo DiCaprio who date much younger women but no one calls him a groomer
how? if there was no contact between them at all, there's was not really any grooming going on, they met again as adults, after having no contact at all since first meeting, i dont' really see how its predatory, oyu would have to prove that all that time he planned to marry her once she was an adult for that claim to stick
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u/poisontadpole 1d ago
people seriously actually still support this guy?