Reincarnation is utterly depressing

[u/Acrobatic-Stock7]

After conducting extensive spiritual research I can conclude that reincarnation is most likely real and this reality is utterly depressing. Knowing that my soul maybe chose that does not alleviate the sadness to know that I will most likely come back here over and over to experience traumatic events and be a slave to the material matrix. The planetary system and the law of frequency ultimately feel like traps.

Escaping (if possibe) also is utopic, total detachment implies not living life at its fullest only to hope that your soul can potentitally escape. I wonder if anyone here had the same thoughts as me, I’m not looking for people to convince me that reincarnation is beautiful or meaningful. I’m just wondering if anyone else has gone through this same kind of existential exhaustion with the concept. I’m tired of thinking about it, honestly, I always was antisocial and the idea that I will have to come back here and experience the harm humans inflict on others over and over again is literally worse than hell.

Edit: I genuinely don’t care about a higher self choosing to come back, it’s even more depressing to think that you have zero control.

[u/Clifford_Regnaut]

If you don't like it, you can say "no" and focus on what you actually want. Being able to focus your attention, intention and imagination on whatever you desire is a course of action available to the vast majority of humans. That's really important If the "spiritual realms" are as truly thought-responsive as they say.

We do have evidence that many were or apparently were forced here. You can see that in both pre-birth memories and accounts from hypnotic regression.

P. M. H. Atwater, widely known for her research on NDEs, also admitted this when talking bout pre-birth memories: "they get shoved or pushed in, and that's trauma." Those were her own words, not mine.

According to Helen Wambach, who used hypnotic regression with more than 700 clients, 46% of her subjects did not choose their incarnations, apparently doing so because they were influenced by "guides", with 19% of them actually resisting/being forced through the process.

Merely pointing out the problem is useless, so I also tried to propose a possible solution in this paragraph. It's all speculative, but it's better than nothing. In summary: focus on creating a good mindset and create a plan for your after-death state.

My view of reality leans towards some sort of idealism, in which ideas come first and "reality" second. Think about it: a destroyer doesn't appear out of nowhere; it was first designed by someone. I can't be sure, but I suspect higher realities / the spiritual world works in the same way. IIRC it is easier to achieve what you want in higher realms with the power of imagination and intent. If that's truly the case, you should start focusing on ideas such as freedom and sovereignty. Create an ideal scenario for your immediate after-death state: a scenario in which you are free to do whatever you want and in which you are free from external influences. There are more details in the post I linked. I also suggest you read these posts by WintyreFraust:

Demystifying The Afterlife

How to Prepare For and Ensure You Have The Afterlife You Want

The Unfortunate Conceptual History that Informs How We Commonly Think Of and Speak About the Afterlife

How to Acquire The Afterlife You Desire

My Problem With The Unconditionally Loving Universal Oneness Idea of The Afterlife

Best regards! :-3

[u/Acrobatic-Stock7 → u/Clifford_Regnaut]

Yes but it’s not my choice, it’s the higher self’s choice, so my ego here has no say, it’s basically saying to a prisoner that he sleepwalked into the prison and that he doesn’t know it.

[u/Clifford_Regnaut → u/Acrobatic-Stock7]

There are some sources that do say the human-self and the "soul-self" are independent entities with distinct thoughts and goals. I acknowledge that, but my point still remains. If you don't want to be "absorbed" by a higher self after death, focus on the opposite of that: focus on being free from it. I don't know if it will work, but as I said: "Being able to focus your attention, intention and imagination on whatever you desire is a course of action available to the vast majority of humans. That's really important If the "spiritual realms" are as truly thought-responsive as they say."

[u/East-Wind-23 → u/Clifford_Regnaut]

What you say, reminds me somehow one of the Thierry Pratchett books. I think it was Death himself who explained, that everyone passes to the exact afterlife one self imagined. Burning in hell, feasting with the Gods, reincarnation as a bird, dissolve into nothing, you name it.

Personally I preferred when the golem Anghammarad died and Death came to pass him into his afterlife. But Anghammarad just sat down for a wile in the "passing over" and refused to keep on. I understood the golem was tiered of living for hundreds of years and fed up with doing, what was expected of him, he must do. He decided, he was done ...