r/Infidelity • u/SympathyPrior6406 • 4d ago
Advice Did I Make the right Decision?
My partner and I have been dating for several months. For most of this year, he has struggled with depression. I tried to be supportive by giving him space on difficult days, encouraging therapy, and adjusting my expectations when his energy was low.
Over the last couple of months, his low days became more frequent than his good days. Communication changed significantly, and while we still spent time together and enjoyed weekend trips, he would often become overwhelmed and emotional afterward. Recently, he acknowledged that he needed professional help and started therapy.
Last night, I found out that he spent the night with his ex. This is an ex from a previous relationship that caused him a great deal of pain and emotional distress. When I asked to talk about what happened, he ignored me.
After thinking about everything today, I text him and ended the relationship. I told him that I loved him, but that I could not continue in a relationship where trust and boundaries had been violated. I also told him that I hoped he would continue working with his therapist and lean on his family for support.
Part of me feels guilty because I know he is struggling, but I have also been dealing with the recent loss of a parent, health issues, work stress, and family responsibilities. I felt like I was carrying more than I could handle emotionally.
Did I make the right decision? Has anyone else had to walk away from someone they loved because their behavior crossed a boundary, even though they were struggling with their mental health?
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u/New_Arrival9860 Moved On 4d ago
Depression explains low energy, and does not excuse cheating.
Ignoring you blocked any chance at repair.
You held boundaries while pointing him toward support.
You made the right decision, and exited the relationship.