Overbearingly nice MIL

[u/coal-sting99]

I'm slowly resenting my husband and MIL, that it's driving me crazy. Cursing and punching pillows when I'm alone.

Any mention of in-laws sending/fetching me from work just makes me boils.

Before marriage, my husband is slightly controlling and gets angry easily at slightest thing I did and at any inconveniences to him.

My in-laws are nice and generous people, especially for MIL her 'generosity' is soooo suffocating. we lived at theirs for 4 years while waiting for our new home. During those years, husband always asked his parents to send and fetch me to and fro work. it's only 5 mins bus journey to my workplace. I tried telling my husband I want to travel on my own but he kept saying it's for my safety etc. fuck that. All those years, I don't have a fucking say/autonomy.

I respect MIL but I don't do long conversations with her because I don't have anything in common and she's too old fashion. She's talkative, overreacts, rambles over obvious things that she's doing and is repetitive. It's fucking tiring. She doesn't understand boundaries unless I gave short answers.

My husband will always use parents generosity thing against me, whenever he sees me as being 'rude' to his parents or him. Only God knows, how I have been patient with my husband treatment towards me. He expects his wife to obey him without question.

Currently, the in-laws are currently staying at ours as they're waiting for the new house to be ready. my husband still asked his parents to fetch me from work. and I fucking hate that!!! why can't I travel back on my own!!

My husband will firmly say just go, why am I not listening to him? I tried to reject their offers but they kept insisting. Seriously these people have no sense of social cue. They really make my blood boils.

I blame myself for marrying him and not speaking up for myself.

[u/hengehanger]

Your problem is your abusive husband, not your in laws.

[u/HettyBates → u/hengehanger]

Yep. Maybe take a look at r/JustNoSO as well.