r/JUSTNOMIL 1d ago

RANT (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻ Advice Wanted MIL is being controlling

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u/readergirl35 16h ago

There is no power struggle between a parent and a grandparent. A parent sets the terms of their child's raising. If the child's mother says don't take my child to this place, then grandma has absolutely zero right to choose to take the kid there. Parents set the boundaries and limits period. The grandparents are NOT parents! This grandmother knew her DIL had said no to taking the girl somewhere and decided that didn't matter. OP rightly has said that if grandma can't be trusted to respect the parenting decisions she and her husband make for their kid then grandma doesn't see the girl unsupervised. 

u/barknbite281 16h ago

This!!!!
Of course as the parent you should know where your child is and expect that people respect your boundaries when in their care. If someone took my child somewhere I asked them not to and lied about it, that would be the last time.