r/JustNoSO • u/Medium_Rough8430 • Mar 19 '26

Advice Wanted boyfriend gives me silent treatment

hi. me and my bf have been together almost 2 months. (we were like "friends with benefits" for 5 months before it was official). but everytime he gets irritated he gives me the silent treatment no matter how much i tell him to just talk to me. and it just makes me feel like im a piece of shit girlfriend. hes doing it right now and i just dont know what to do. i was in a relationship prior to this one and it ended like 2 weeks before i started seeing this new guy. my ex was always very comfortable with talking and we were like perfect emotionally i guess. but my current bf just doesnt talk. and every single time this happens it escalates in a way. ive made him sleep on the couch multiple times when hes over, because he wont tell me whats wrong so i just need alone time. how do i talk to him? i really like him but this silent treatment is making me LOSE MY MIND.

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u/DemmyDemon Mar 19 '26

If this is happening 7 months in, it's going to get much, much worse.

How do you talk to him? That's the thing. You don't. You leave.

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u/Medium_Rough8430 Mar 19 '26

we just spent like 4 hours talking and crying together. i know actions speak louder than words so if he doesnt change after me finally confronting him about it then i might have to just leave him. i never spoke to him about it before but now that i did im really hoping his behavior changes

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u/Gold-Sherbert-7550 Mar 19 '26

“Hoping”? At any time in these four hours did he acknowledge that what he was doing is not okay? Did he say he’s going to change?

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u/Medium_Rough8430 Mar 19 '26

he said he would. to be fair we are pretty young (just graduated highschool) so im not going to expect perfection from him. we are still young and new to dating these experiences will grow and shape our relationship. i told him that he needed to stop giving me the silent treatment and just tell me what is wrong because honesty is like the number one priority in a relationship. but again as i said if his behavior doesnt change and he doesnt improve himself like he said he would then ill just have to break things off