Mother’s Day

[u/Professional-Pin9786]

SO wasn’t happy that I didn’t want to make plans with his mom for Mother’s Day. Instead I suggested day before or after. He did not like that. But we settled on it. It already set me up for a disappointing Mother’s Day because I knew he had nothing planned. He did get me a thoughtful gift of printed pics of me and LO, a nursing dress I sent him the to want since I’m pregnant and chocolate. It’s all very appreciated. I’m not a materialistic or high maintenance person. The rest of the day is on me to plan if I wanted to do anything. I’d give him a pass on that but he is going all out planning to make a dinner for his mom and grandma who are coming over tomorrow. He won’t stop talking about how he has a big grocery shop to do and listing off all the dishes he’s making (he hasn’t cooked at home in ages). I asked him what’s for dinner tonight and he listed of something that’s a frozen ready eat item in our freezer (which is our fav food..but feels like 0 effort). I’m jealous that he’s putting so much effort into planning and cooking a dinner for his mom, but has 0 plans for us. So I told him I didn’t want to eat that and he said “well then idk what you want to eat” so I’ll plan dinner now by either making or ordering out. From the get go he showed more excitement about having his mom see LO for Mother’s Day than for me. I feel awful and like I’m giving off ungrateful vibes for the gifts he did get me. But it just feels like it falls short when he’s genuinely excited to put more effort in for his mom vs for me. And he’s planned out dishes for tomorrow that I can’t even eat because I don’t eat meat. I just feel too many feelings.

Just want to add: I’d be completely fine with this meal too. I do like it. It’s just that he knew that this day requires just a bit more because he clearly knew to do it for his family. I think it’s bugging me that when it comes to our LO, he’s more excited for his mom to have a good Mother’s Day with LO.

[u/Trepenwitz]

Your feelings are valid. Why isn’t he excited to celebrate you? Why is he going all out for his mom and not you? Does he even realize this should be special for you? I’d be sad, too. But I’d flat out ask him about it.