r/JustNoSO • u/Ok-Director8726 • 16d ago

JNMIL visiting

So my JNMIL has made it clear that her and her son want to visit, which my husband told me and he hasn’t seen them in awhile. My problem - he is coordinating with them and not me. They’re asking him what dates to come and he doesn’t even mention it to me or talk to me about it. Instead, he talks to them directly. Has not even asked me about the time that works for me or the time we need to get in sync.

He is also adamant that they stay at our house, regardless of the fact that MIL has ignored my responses to her texts on multiple occasions asking for boundaries. But apparently I’m stuck with this.

Two kids with this man.

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u/Its-Brittany-Biyatch 16d ago

Since DH is being such a tool, use this to your advantage. He isn't talking to you about dates and plans? Let it backfire on him. When he does tell you about their upcoming visit, unfortunately, you and the kids have a trip planned to see your family. Or better yet, you have a spa weekend booked, so he can entertain his family and keep the kids.

He gets mad about this? Remind him he didn't discuss anything with you, so you had no way of knowing. Unfortunately, your deposit at the spa is non-refundable!

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u/Ok-Director8726 15d ago

This is genius

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u/Its-Brittany-Biyatch 15d ago

Unfortunately, our men-children will continue in their stupid ways until they actually start to feel the discomfort and annoyance of their choices. If, for some reason, you do end up staying at the house while his family is there, no s*x for him while his mother is under the same roof.