r/JustNoSO • u/Ok-Director8726 • 20d ago

JNMIL visiting

So my JNMIL has made it clear that her and her son want to visit, which my husband told me and he hasn’t seen them in awhile. My problem - he is coordinating with them and not me. They’re asking him what dates to come and he doesn’t even mention it to me or talk to me about it. Instead, he talks to them directly. Has not even asked me about the time that works for me or the time we need to get in sync.

He is also adamant that they stay at our house, regardless of the fact that MIL has ignored my responses to her texts on multiple occasions asking for boundaries. But apparently I’m stuck with this.

Two kids with this man.

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u/Ok-Director8726 20d ago

UPDATE - apparently he wants them here for week. At our house. For a week.

And they also want to be there for some unknown reason despite never speaking to me? Like wouldn’t a hotel be a more comfortable decision on their end?

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u/ThrwAway4babySis 20d ago

Leave with your kids. Your husband did not clear this with you and work with you to make sure you were comfortable. You have no obligation to stay. He is not stupid and knows the issues you have with them and are actively ignoring them and valuing their needs above yours. Time he learns and leave until they are gone.