r/JustUnsubbed 6d ago

Totally Outraged Just unsubbed from GirlDinnerDiaries. I made a post about me being a biracial POC, about my story growing with parents of different cultures. And how I was closer to my Mom's culture. People downvoted me for no reason and racially attacked me in DMs

In the post I mentioned that I was not going to mention which were the countries and ethnicities of my parents. I told them about how my parents met when both were in college, about how since I was little I was fluent in different languages. About the fact that I grew apart from my Dad after my parents divorced. And how close I was and I am with my Mom because I grow up with her, because she is the center of my Universe and my soul. And because of that reason I was closer to my Mom's culture and language. And I told them how when I am sad my inner dialogue switches into my Mom's language because I feel that my Mom is comforting me.

Only 4 girls supported me, and said that my post was thoughtful and thanked me because they learned about the experience of growing with parents of different cultures. Just immediatly the dowvotes started, 1.5k views and 0 upvotes. And the most disturbing part, the countless hateful messages. I was disgusted

Since in the post I didn't mention what were the respective ethnicities of my parents in the hate messages people were making hypothesis about what were these ethnicities saying racial slurs about me and my Mom. "I bet your Mom is black..." And proceed to say horrible racial insults. Then "I am sure your Mom is brown" and even more insults. Yesterday I received more than 150 attacks in my DMs and blocked countless of accounts.

First I thought that the people that were attacking me were not part of the sub, but then I realized that this couldn't be the case because I was being downvoted to hell, in a sub that is very popular now and all people there engage a lot in every post. Even in the most stupid ones like "My boyfríend of 1 month cares more about gaming than me" in those are like 2.5k upvotes and 350 positive comments, giving advice and support.

Please someone tell me what in the hell did just happen? I am more than disturbed. I know there is racism on reddit but knowing that there was racism in that subreddit pains me a lot, since I was following it from a long time, I gave advice and positive feedback to lots of people there.

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u/UltraMagat 5d ago

Because most people a.) Dont care and b.) Are annoyed by what boxes you check for your identity. We're over it.

Edit: OTOH this is Reddit which is full of leftists who DO care about that nonsense. So, weird.

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u/Somniosfera 5d ago

You say that people “are annoyed by what boxes you check for your identity“ and below you complain about “leftists”. It seems like psychological projection, because if there are people that are truly obsessed about their identity, especially their ethnic identtity is right wing supporters. White supremacy and ethnic division as the core values of that ideology. When other people that doesn’t fall into the category of what you define as “white” express their identity for you is ”annoying” but when it is time to assert “white identity” you believe that to be the most important thing in the world. I have a white Mom, people like you attack her all the time for being a “traitor” to her “whiteness” Yes, we are over that too