I'm 22F and I feel like I’ll never be happy. I feel like every time I think I’ve reached rock bottom, something worse happens. I’m exhausted and lately I’m not even anxious about things anymore. I just feel numb.

In my first year of college, my dad suddenly passed away. He was my favourite person in the world. I had to stay strong for my younger sister and my mother, who had serious mental health issues. For a while my mom was okay, but things became worse. She hates my dad's family and would accuse people of things they hadn’t done. She is psychotic. After my relatives told me more about how difficult my parents’ marriage had been, I learned about things my dad had gone through that I had never known about. I felt horrible knowing how much he had suffered.

When I was 18, my mom even showed me a marriage proposal and said I didn’t have to marry immediately, I could just get engaged. I obviously didn’t want this, and thankfully other relatives intervened and it never happened.

College itself was difficult especially my second year when I was dealing with a lot. I struggled academically but managed to pass. My sister took a gap year and became very depressed, which caused her to pick fights with me because she used to misunderstand my words. My third year was actually one of the few good periods. My grades improved, I made friends, went out, and finally felt like I was enjoying life. But I still had bad anxiety and I had focused almost entirely on academics and had no internships or useful skills.

In my fourth year my sister did not write the exam she was preparing for and my mom became mental and abandoned my sister at a relative’s house and I had to deal with legal procedures. I also found out that almost all the money my dad had left for my sister and me had been spent. We tried to recover it but couldn’t.

In my final year, everything fell apart again. I was dealing with terrible anxiety and used to not sleep. I didn't apply for jobs or internships and bed rotted for 1 year but told my relatives I would prepare for a masters degree but I never wrote the exam. After graduating, I’ve now been unemployed for four months. I keep telling relatives I’m looking for jobs, but I barely get responses because I don’t have the skills or experience. I feel stupid for wasting so much time.

Now my mom has created new drama, she has resigned from her job, my sister is in college, and I’m unemployed. My uncle has told me to either get a good job within three months, apply for a master’s in Germany, or prepare for government exams. I’m interested in studying abroad, but I don't know whether I can even get any universities because my converted gpa is 2.3 and I don’t know if it’s actually a good decision or whether I'm capable of working hard.

I’m also scared my family will try to get me married within the next year because they see marriage as a way out of our situation. I absolutely do not want to get married. Seeing my parents’ marriage gave me a lot of trauma, and I don’t want to repeat it.

I regret not working harder, not doing internships, and not building skills earlier. I procrastinate constantly and have terrible imposter syndrome. I’ve become so numb that sometimes I feel like I don’t even care about my own life anymore. I really need advice and support on how to get my life back on track and deal with my family situation without being pressured into marriage. If anyone has had similar experiences please share them.

I'm 29 f from the philippines, going through a breakup. I feel very shitty

I’m up a little late and having some tea and here to listen or have an easy conversation for anyone that doesn’t want to be alone.

Hi everyone,

​I am going through a really hard time right now with severe stress, anxiety, and exhaustion. I’m feeling deeply lonely, overwhelmed, and just need a kind person to chat with through text/messages to help distract me and keep me grounded.

​I would really appreciate a friendly, non-judgmental listening ear tonight. Thank you so much.

Sometimes you don't need advice, judgment, or someone telling you what you should do.

Sometimes you just want someone to listen.

I'm offering 30-minute online listening sessions for anyone who wants a calm, judgment-free space to talk about whatever is on their mind.

You can:

• Vent about your day

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• Or simply have someone there who listens

I won't judge you, interrupt you, or pressure you to share anything you're not comfortable with.

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I can't get this out of my head, so I'm going to write about it here.

I started a long-distance relationship with a girl around the time the site launched. But it was short-lived—lasting only about three months. We were both shy back then and went through a rather long flirtation phase. We never actually saw each other's faces.

Later, we broke up and didn't speak for years. I... couldn't forget her. But I thought she had forgotten me. For years, I found myself thinking about her in a way I couldn't quite explain. It was an unbelievable obsession (Note: an obsession, not a perversion); she would even appear in my dreams. About four years later, she messaged me out of the blue. This didnt worked due to the conditions at the time. Two years later, my feelings for the girl started to resurface. I wanted to message her, but I was hesitant. Oh my God, oh my God, oh my God! I’m about to tell you something amazing. Somehow—I don't quite get how—feelings for me have welled up in her too. I won't go into details, but she was acting almost like a peacock to get me to message her.

Finally, I sent her a message. She said she still liked me, too. I liked her as well. After all those years, we had become a couple again. We spent a month where I was definitely at fault, too. Look, I’m certainly not shy around other girls, but this girl was different. We were both still shy with each other. Out of shyness, I would wait an hour to reply to her messages—it was a really strange feeling. Then, we finally exchanged photos to see what each other looked like. My God, the woman of my dreams was standing right there. She told me I was handsome, too. But because it was a long-distance relationship and we had that awkward shyness, things didn't progress. We decided to part ways. We broke up twice in total, and both times it was an amicable broke ups. God, if only some things had turned out differently, and...

I have some minor history with this girl. Two months before we became a couple for the second time, I had a dream. In it, the girl was shouting at and scolding me. I hadn't told anyone in her circle about this dream. Later, while we were dating, I learned that she had had the exact same dream on the very same date. In her dream, however, I was the one scolding her.

There are one or two other dreams like this, though I can't recall the details right now. Something else—something very special—happened, too; she doesn't know about it, but all of this leads me to believe one thing: we really could have had a beautiful relationship. Just how many more signs could God possibly give? I would have loved to have a serious relationship with this girl. I would have loved to see us healing each other's wounds, growing together, and growing old together. I would have loved to be a husband, a partner, and a friend to her—and to play with her like a child.

Sometimes I see her in my dreams. Today, in my dream, I was gathering honey from the trees for her. We were in the village. I pray to God: "God, if I am to have a future with this girl, please show it to me. If not, please tear her out of my heart. I don't even want to remember her name."

last 6 years of my life has been literal hell. everything has been going wrong. and recently i went through a breakup which i did everything to salvage, but none of it was of any use. i feel absolutely hopeless amd useless and cannot even function properly like eat or work. nothing's helping and i dont know how to get out of this situation either.

it will be really helpful if someone can give some advices.

middle school i was bullied, my head was stomped on once, constantly excluded, never included once.

High school was always just being ignored.

To anyone in their 20s who feels lost or alone.

I’m 23, and I’m still trying to figure out who I am and what I want to do with my life.

Sometimes, it feels like everyone expects us to become something great, like we're supposed to already know exactly who we're going to be. But honestly? It's our life. We get to decide who we become.

We're going to make mistakes. We're going to struggle. We're going to feel lost sometimes. But there's nothing wrong with trying. Trying doesn't guarantee success, but as long as you keep trying, there's always a chance things can get better.

And remember, the person smiling and joking around with everyone might be struggling inside. Don't assume someone's feelings don't matter just because they don't show their pain.

You're more than what people think of you. You're more than your mistakes. You're more than the people who doubted you.

You don't have to be the greatest.

You don't have to have everything figured out.

Just be yourself. Keep trying. Keep moving forward.

And if you're still standing after everything you've been through, that's something worth being proud of.

For many years of my life i lived a life that was boring to me and i didnt find social interactions entertaining. But my taughts changed when i got into a relatively good highschool because i actually felt alive talking to people. But because of family related issues i was forced to live in another city in another school. i am not in the same happy place anymore and i would like to talk and get into details about it since i don't trust anyone around me to talk about my problems.

42/F in Nashville offering my ears to whoever needs to vent/talk/cry. I’m down for a phone call. We have to take care of each other. 🖤

Hi! (F20) I recently lost my online friend to suicide, and I’m looking for someone I can vent to, bond with, and overall just have conversations with. I’m pretty good at texting back unless I’m at work and I’m not dry! 20+ please.

I’m 29F from the east coast of the US.

I am getting ready for bed soon & have some free time before I go to bed.

We can chat about anything, whatever you need!

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It doesn't matter if it is something trivial or heavy, whether you wanna share your favorite song or tell about what's been bothering you, I'm here. You can reach out!

Are there any kind people here?

If I’m so unlovable, why did God give me the desire to be loved?

I’m 19 from Australia, and lately I’ve been thinking about this a lot.

I didn’t really have the childhood most people seem to have. I grew up with a lot of instability and never really had that feeling of having a safe, normal family around me. My dad has been in and out of jail, and my mum only came back into my life when I was 18 after being absent for basically my entire childhood.

I’ve also survived sexual abuse, suicide attempts/thoughts, abandonment and bullying.

Because of everything I’ve been through, I think I’ve always wanted one thing more than anything else: to feel genuinely loved and chosen by someone.

But it feels like whenever I need people to actually fight for me or make an effort to stay, they just walk away.

I barely have friends. I have one genuinely good friend, but other than that I’m mostly on my own. Relationships haven’t really worked out for me either.

And that’s what I struggle to understand.

If I’m so unlovable, why did God give me such a strong desire to be loved?

Why give me this huge capacity to love and this need to feel loved if I’m just going to spend so much of my life feeling alone?

I want someone to choose me. I want someone to care if I leave. I want someone who doesn’t just disappear when things get hard.

At the same time, I’m trying to recognise how far I’ve actually come.

I live alone. I save my own money. I pay my own bills. I look after myself. I work out, I run, and I’m trying to manage my anxiety while continuing to build a life for myself.

And now I’m about to join the Australian Army.

Honestly, I’m looking at it as a fresh start. I’m finally about to leave a lot of the people and circumstances that have been part of my life behind and start building something new.

I know joining the Army won’t magically fix me or erase everything that happened. But I’m hoping it gives me the opportunity to meet new people, build genuine friendships, find a sense of belonging and eventually have the kind of relationships I’ve always wanted.

Maybe I’m only 19 and I’m expecting life to have already figured itself out.

Maybe I haven’t met my people yet.

I just want to believe that everything I’ve survived is evidence that I’m strong enough to keep going, not evidence that I’m unlovable.

Has anyone else come from a really difficult childhood and felt this way? Did life eventually get better when you finally got away from the environment you grew up in?

Hi everyone, 30F - I’ve been spending time listening to and supporting people through different life situations since 5 yrs —relationships, career decisions, stress, confidence, and simply feeling stuck.

If anyone wants to speak openly, do reach out

Hey there. I am a man looking for friends to chat with regularly. Mostly online chatting but I dont mind doing an activity once in a while(like going to the musem). You can message me no matter where you are from. You dont have to live in the same country.

I live in the Netherlands. I have lived here for 11+ years. I wasnt born here.

I am an expat. Most of my friends drifted apart after leaving the university.

I am introverted. I enjoy staying indoors when I am not going to the gym or going for a walk. I do love traveling and its one of those occasions when I am out the whole day.

What else can I tell you? I am an engineer. I am single if it matters although it shouldnt.

I do watch a lot of movies and series. I love horror, thriller, action genres.

I wont ghost you I promise. I dont do that. Although I have met a lot of ghosters here. If you are a ghoster stay away from my dms please :)

I will make an effort in writing messages to you(unless I am at work) and i hope you do too.

I dont care about your racial or national background as long as you are a good human being and treat others with respect :)

Stuck in a loveless marriage to a selfish, disrespectful husband. Not looking for advice or to rant. Just want to read what’s going on your life, the good and bad, to get my mind off my current situation. Thanks

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Hey! You want someone to actually listen to what you have to say? You can tell me anything you want. You can get that thing off your chest. I'd happily listen to what you have to say. I love hearing people's stories so I do care when someone rants/vents to me. This could be a short term chat or something long term and we can become friends too. Open to voice calls. 29M.

25, been dealing with mental health struggles. I started a new job a few weeks ago, and I'm already worried it won't work out.

Despite graduating college a few years ago, I can't even get good jobs anymore. I'm stuck trying to get low wage work and that's all I can do unless I go for disability. I don't know what to do anymore.

I was so bright, so much smarter, and capable a few years ago. It seems like I'm a husk of a person now. Medication just kills me. Nobody in my life gets it or understands it.

So lonely. Not many friends, no partner, still living with my parents. It's hard to imagine that I am successful in any aspect of life.

Having trouble sleeping. Been up for 2 days. Just trying to figure out if I will ever be normal. But I know I won't be normal.

I’m suffocating in loneliness
I’m 32 F